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Joseph & Jenn Delle Fave, The Duo Behind The Creative Finance Playbook, Share How Profit First Changed The Course Of Their Business

Title: “Joseph & Jenn Delle Fave, The Duo Behind The Creative Finance Playbook, Share How Profit First Changed The Course Of Their Business”

 

Episode 177

The Profit First REI Podcast

May 1,  2023

David Richter

Family is often a big factor in any person’s life, so when family becomes an obstacle when starting a business, it becomes a significant roadblock. For our guests today, overcoming this hurdle became a major struggle.

 

Joseph and Jenn Delle Fave are real estate investors, coaches, and the duo behind the Creative Finance Playbook—a Youtube channel where they share the wonders of non-traditional financing for real estate.

 

If you’re someone who has struggled with family resistance or fear holding you back from pursuing your entrepreneurial dreams, this episode is for you. Tune in as Joe and Jenn share their inspiring story and how Profit First has helped them with their business.

 

Key Takeaways:
[00:41] Introducing Joe & Jenn Delle Fave and Diving Into Joe’s Background

[07:35] Joe’s Past Struggles

[12:23] On Pursuing Real Estate Despite Family Struggles

[17:31] How Joe & Jenn Connected

[20:29] Jenn’s Background

[23:53] On Moving to Florida

[27:46] On Learning About and Implementing Profit First

[33:39] On Profit First Alleviating Fear

[36:55] Connect with Joe & Jenn

 

Quotes: 

[29:11] “The whole concept of [Profit First], like the envelope system, that’s something that every person needs to really implement. And so even though we were organized, things could be even more organized. ”

[21:23] “I feel like the whole time I was listening to your book, you were just speaking directly to me about a lot of the issues that we’ve been dealing with for years.”

[32:03] “[Profit First can benefit you because] of clarity of everything that’s going on in the health of your business…Just like being able to open up the hood [of] a car and find out what’s wrong with it and tinkering [with] it. But you don’t have to. It’s just showing right in your face now.”

 

Connect with Joe & Jenn

Website: https://www.creativefinanceplaybook.com/
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/CFPlaybook/
Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@creativefinanceplaybook

Tired of living deal to deal? 

If you are a real estate investor or business owner who is tired of living deal to deal, and want to double your profits, head over here to book your no-obligation discovery call with me. Either myself or someone from my team will hop on a short call with you to get clear on your business goals, remove any obstacles holding you back, and map out a game plan to help you finally start keeping more of the money you work so hard to make. – David 



Transcript:

Speaker 1:

And so we don’t have to spend hours looking at each other either saying, why do we have all this money? Or where did all the money go? And that’s the key. So I think mostly what it is, is, like I said earlier, I don’t think success is, it’s not an accident. Like it’s well-planned.

Speaker 2:

If you’re a real estate investor who’s sick and tired of living deal to deal, then welcome home. Hear from everyday real estate investors just like you, and discover how they’ve completely transformed their business by taking a profit First approach. This is the profit first for r e I podcast, where we believe revenue is vanity. Profit is sanity. It’s time to start making profit a habit in your business. So here’s your host, David Richter.

Speaker 3:

Have you ever had family be a deterrent from you starting a business? Or that might be what’s holding you back or maybe your fear is pushing you the wrong direction. These are things that we’re covering today with Joseph and Jen Defe and oh my gosh, Joe and Jen are amazing people and what they’ve gone through and their backstory, holes and shoes, just crazy types of things to where they are today in the real estate investing world. And how Private First has also helped them gain clarity and making sure that they don’t go back to holes and shoes in these different circumstances and how they’ve overcome some of these difficult emotional things in their families and the friends and the people that never want them to succeed that much because they’re always like, okay, what they’re doing way more than me. If you’re ever been there, this episode’s for you. Thank you for listening. Hey, hey, this is David Richter here again on the Profit First r i podcast. Super excited about this episode. Have two of my good friends, Joe and Jen de la fave, and they are amazing people. Not just because they like Profit First, but because they’re making an impact out in the real estate investing world. So Joe, Jen, thank you so much for being on the podcast today.

Speaker 1:

Awesome. Thanks so much for having us, David. Thank you.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, well and they’re just recently four natives here, even though they don’t hail from here, they came down because of lots of good reasons. I’m gonna let them tell a little bit of that story cuz I think that’s probably gonna just help some people of like, how do you make decisions? Like a big decision moving across the country. So we’ll talk about that for sure. But they’re also in real estate. They’ve been in real estate for a while too and like doing some really cool things and then also teaching as well too because they do it really well. Just follow them on the ins, you know, Instagram, Facebook, all that good stuff. They’re posting good stuff every day and I see all that stuff that they’re posting. I’m like, man, they are just living it up in Florida. They’re like, you have really become Floridians real fast. So that was really good stuff. But let’s dive into it. Like if people don’t know your background or where you came from, can you give like what, you know, like what got you interested in real estate? What, you know, just give us a little bit of that overview.

Speaker 1:

Well thank you so much for that. Yeah, for sure. I got started into real estate by being a landlord son. Okay. I, my family had a few rentals in upstate New York, in the inner part of the city, some of the rougher areas and you learn a lot. I mean from doing cleanouts to sure, seeing evictions happen to just there and you, you get to see a lot. So growing up in that atmosphere, what I didn’t know, as I got older, all of a sudden all of the houses disappeared and I didn’t realize that my family got into financial issues because of these and, and up going bankrupt. Wow. So profit first. If they had that back in the eighties and nineties, maybe this would never have happened. Right. Wow. But once again it was a really challenging atmosphere. So seeing that and not necessarily like I was discouraged cause I saw my grandparents did really, really well with real estate.

So I was at a buddy’s house. I was 22, this is the year 2000, so I’m gonna date myself a little bit. And he bought Ron the Grands course off of late night infomercial and he never opened it, had it for like a year, never opened it. So I asked him, I begged him if I could borrow it and he let me. He was a little reluctant at first, but he let me borrow it. Yeah. Because back then it was like 300 bucks and that was a lot of money in 2000, right? Yes. Especially when you’re 20 years old. So, but a month later I got my first deal under contract. I wholesaled it, I made 15 grand. Huh? There you go. I was hooked. I mean it might as well been, you know, add a couple zeros as far as I was concerned because I, yeah, I had proof of concept that worked and the check was amazing.

So after that I just got a job. I mean I had one at the time, but my j o b what I always called just over broke was I was in the car business started off as a car salesman in 2001 and then moved into the finance office 2005, bought my own house, met a lot of people at the banks. Met Jen in 2008 and this is where things really started to change in our lives together because she had her own house. She was a teacher, I had my own house, I was in the car business and in 2008 the markets starting to get twisted up a little bit. Yeah. And this is when you could, like you kind of mentioned before, I’ve heard you say you could find deals in the MLS than we were. Yeah. Okay. For a fraction of the price of 2008, 2000 9, 10, 11, we started buying these junker houses, getting some cash that we had and then we would rehab ’em and then I’d go to one of my friends at the bank refinance out of it and then do it again bur Right.

I didn’t know even have that name. Okay. so we had the talk that eventually they were gonna slow you down and cut you off. Eventually the banks that I were using had some internal things portfolio they could lend on, but I knew that there was gonna be a limit to how many we could buy. Okay. And when Jen was working a ton and when we very first met, she was getting her master’s degree in the car business. You worked crazy hours. So there was days where like we’d say hi to each other and we’d be out the door and wouldn’t see each other till late at night. Huh. And we knew we didn’t love that and I knew that, you know, it took me till 30. I was 30 when I finally met her. So I wanted to spend as much time with her as I can.

And so the fact is, we, we wanted to have a plan, we could work together. So Jen was the first one to get to walk away from her teaching job. Oh cool. Once we were married and had kids and with me having the desire to leave, but we always figured that’s gonna be much further down the road. But then 2016 we really stumbled more into create a finance from more around the grand and learned that you could buy real estate without using banks, without using credit. And we had great credit. We had, you know, income galore. So that wasn’t an issue. But then once we realized that we could do that, that’s really what changed it. So we changed all of the single family home rentals that we had into rent to own cuz we love that strategy. Yeah. And then we started buying houses with creative finance and the first one we did was in 2017 where I had to argue nicely with the seller to take my a hundred dollars deposit cause he wanted to do with no money down.

And I said, you gotta at least let me give you a hundred. He’s like, no, no, no. He’s like, keep your a hundred. I’m like, no, take your wife out to dinner. Like, do something nice with this a hundred dollars. And he’s like, no, I insist you keep it. And I’m like, no, you must take this a hundred, solidify the account. So, but what it was, it was a it was a 0% mortgage no money down, $500 payment. We cash flow really great outta that property. And then that’s when the light bulb really went on, like, we’re onto something. And I came home with that agreement. We signed it at McDonald’s, so nowhere super flashy. And then when I got home I was smiling and cheese and so hard. Jen takes a big picture of me, I still have that picture and we share that. That’s the, that was the real start of it and that’s what kind of changed it. Okay.

Speaker 3:

Awesome. I, I have a question for you the be I want before we go any further, what was Jen’s side of the story? I want to hear that as well too. But then I, I have to ask Joe, going bankrupt, your family was in real estate. You saw your grandparents be very successful, but then you saw bankruptcy as well too. Like what made you continue going? Like what, what, what was it at that time? Did it affect you? Like, did you know what was going on? Like you said, I knew that there weren’t the properties there and you’re more like, how are you feeling at that point? And like you stuck it out with real estate and obviously that first proof of concept with that 15, you know, grand check in your hand felt really good. So like what got you to that point, even though seeing, I guess someone just as close as a parent go down?

Speaker 1:

Well, I guess I was, I was held in the dark about it. I honestly, okay, I didn’t know this to be truthful with you. This is the first time anybody’s gonna hear about this. But yeah, when I was in the car business and I finally pulled my parents’ credit, that’s when I saw the bankruptcy on there and said, whoa, what’s happening? What happened here? And that’s when I found out. Yeah. prior to that, did

Speaker 3:

You say would’ve said something to you as a kid? Or do you think that was a good decision?

Speaker 1:

Maybe leaving me kind of dumb about it was great. I don’t, I don’t know. I don’t think it would’ve changed anything, but I do know there were some financial issues. They were very, you know, upset about it, but very private about it. Yeah. so I, I really didn’t know all of a sudden the houses weren’t around and my parents really didn’t have money for extras anymore. Well

Speaker 4:

That was the thing, I think that was the proof in the pudding that you’ve always said, I won’t live like that. Like that. Right. Like, your children wouldn’t have holes in their shoes and have those, you know what I mean? Like that.

Speaker 3:

So you felt it though. You didn’t know what was going on, but there was definitely touching you at that point of your life. What, how old were you when you remember having holes in your shoes?

Speaker 1:

So I was probably, you know, seventh, eighth grade Oh wow. In upstate tough time. Yeah. Cause in upstate New York in the wintertime you get a lot of snow and so you get bus. So you’re getting into school and you walk through snow and your socks are exposed. Those things stay wet all day long. Yeah. So that was how I was living. And then to the point where I’d ask for shoes and they’d have to, you know, glue them, epoxy them and then say you gotta hang on for a couple more weeks. And so we did. We made do, I mean it just was what it was. But I, I realized at that young age, like I’d see other wealthy people. I mean my grandparents live on 50 acres and a 4,000 square foot house that’s absolutely gorgeous with ponds and a quarter mile long driveway. And I’m like, this is what I want. And okay, these people came from Italy with nothing. Yeah. So what I realized, success was not luck. It was a decision.

Speaker 3:

Ooh, that’s good.

Speaker 1:

And so then at a very young age, I just kind of had the like, why not me attitude? Like there’s other people that are rich and so like why not me? And that was my, always my attitude since a little kid. Cause I knew what I didn’t want. I didn’t wanna go through that anymore. Right. The embarrassment, the just about having wet feet all day long. So to me that was the catalyst behind like me working so hard even to this day is because some of it’s fear. Mm-Hmm. I, I work from strength, I love what I do, but if some of it, there’s that underlying fear is what it comes from is just never going back to that again.

Speaker 3:

Yeah. Well and you even me, we’ll definitely get into the profit first side. Yeah. Because you even mentioned like if they had profit first, maybe it’d be a different story. So maybe, we’ll I think we’ll tie that in for sure. But I, that is, that’s incredible. So I’m guessing when you got that first $15,000 check in your hand, it meant a, like you said, you could have added zeros to it cuz it meant a whole lot more than just the money in the bank.

Speaker 1:

Well that, and you know, you have all the naysayers that say what do you, what kind of scheme are you doing? You know, this isn’t gonna

Speaker 3:

Work. Was that family members?

Speaker 1:

Oh of course. Friends and family, you name it. Aunts, uncles, you know, some of’em didn’t even understand what wholesaling, if it was, there wasn’t like YouTube back then,

Speaker 3:

Right. <Laugh>

Speaker 1:

There wasn’t Google. If it was, it was in its infancy, you couldn’t Google like what’s wholesaling. Yeah.

Speaker 1:

So nobody really knew much about it wasn’t as mainstream as it is now. Right. It’s still not very, but still, you know. So they always thought I was up to some scheme and the next thing you know, I left the closing table where we did a double close and I’m literally jumping for joy like physically jumping in air in the parking garage to the point where I don’t even remember where I even parked my car. <Laugh>.

Speaker 3:

Wow.

Speaker 1:

And I’m walking around looking for this car and it’s freezing. It’s great cold out. It’s December when we’re closing. And did

Speaker 3:

You have holes in your shoes?

Speaker 1:

Not anymore.

Speaker 3:

Okay. That’s good. Oh man. Well that’s awesome that I love that. Let me ask this too, cuz I saw Jen Jen’s reaction cuz if you’re just listening to this, you couldn’t see Jen’s reaction when I asked was it also family that was the naysayers? And she kind of was like, oh yeah, <laugh> like yes it was. So let me ask this. What, what about today? What does the family think? Do they still think like you’re crazy for being in real estate and doing that stuff? Or do they kind of see like, hey this has actually worked out for you guys or do you mind going into that at all? Either one of you can answer

Speaker 4:

That question. Yeah, I think that it’s, you know, it’s mixed. A mixed bag, right? Yes. It depends on the connections that you have with the family members or friends for that. Members for sure. Some are very supportive. They’re there all the way. How can I help you? You know, even simply like sharing social media posts and then others, I think it’s because we’ve been successful and we continue to help others succeed. There does, you know, come a time where it’s not really as easy as some people may think to have support from your family. Yeah. and it comes from a very, you know, you have to become very inner, you know, have inner strength and really lean on, we lean on each other. You know, it’s faith based, you know, you lean to God but you know, whatever it is you realize that it’s not, they’re not always your friends or family aren’t gonna support you.

You know, at the end of the day, and I’m kind of giggling too because when I got into the, the business here with rent to own, everybody thought, oh you guys are a scam. What are you doing? This is crazy. You make enough money, why are you wait? You know, just slow down. You’re too busy. And I just have to tune that out because they mean well and I know they, some of them come from a pace place of love. Some may not, I’m not sure. But at the end of the day, like we are the ones who are providing for our family, for our children, for ourselves. And then now our purpose is bigger. We have other people that we know we need to serve. So, you know, it just continues to grow. As you become more successful you realize that there’s a lot of people out there that need your help and it’s not about you anymore.

Speaker 3:

So. No, I love that. That’s really good stuff. And I think that’s gonna resonate with a lot of people because if you’re listening to this now and you are like, Hey, yeah, that’s my family all the way, there’s no support. Or like maybe there’s some that are supportive but then there’s others that aren’t that supportive. It’s like a lot of people go through that, you know, Joe and Jen are not <laugh> not not the strange ones here. They’re probably the more typical of like, hey look, they went into real estate, won the world. You know, that’s, why don’t they have a j o b <laugh>? You know, that’s where I think a lot of people go down that road. But I wanted to ask too, cuz I think this is so important, you, you like briefly touched on it, where did you draw a lot of that inner strength? Do you have a background of faith or was it like how, or was it the success of doing the deals and seeing proof of concept over and over again? Like or was you said you relied on each other. Like I just wanna know how do you get through that when there are people either close to you or when tough times come no matter what it is?

Speaker 1:

So luckily for me, when I was in my teens, I got to work for a very, very wealthy man.

Speaker 3:

Oh wow. Cool.

Speaker 1:

My, one of my first like really cool jobs was I sold perfume in Colonna, the trunk of my car. <Laugh>.

Speaker 3:

That’s awesome.

Speaker 1:

And I did that for years and the guy I got to work for was a huge mentor in my life and I met him at the right time because I mean he was living in a six and a half million dollar mansion in the heart of Dallas driving a Rolls-Royce. I mean the guy. And he came from a really similar background to me. Oh wow. Even worse, even worse off. Than I started. And so he was very, a motivational speaker, lived close to Zig Ziglar, they were buddies like that kinda

Speaker 3:

Wow. Okay.

Speaker 1:

So working for him, he really taught me a lot and they can grow. Rich was one of them. Right. And it’s about having some strength. So the one thing that they always talked about was being a rhino and a rhino has tough, thick skin that you know, prevents other animals from penetrating. And if you have a charging rhino coming at you, there’s really not much that stands up to it. So I always had that rhino mentality as far as friends aren’t gonna always support you, some Wilson won’t and that just is what it is. Family will support you. Some Wilson won’t and that’s just is what it is. But if you’re doing good things and you’re making a positive impact in the community for your family and you are continue to do this and you love what you do, when you come from a place of love, then it really doesn’t matter what anybody thinks because the thoughts in other people’s heads shouldn’t determine how I feel about myself. Mm-Hmm.

Speaker 3:

And what I’m doing. That’s good.

Speaker 1:

So that’s what gives me the strength and no, I’m doing the right thing no matter what anybody else from the outside doesn’t see completely. So, you know, some of the family at first who were like, oh what are you doing? You can’t do this to now they’re like, oh well must be nice. You live in Florida, you live in this beautiful house, you have this beautiful, must be nice. And I’m like, it is nice. You’re actually right. It is fantastic. It is gonna be like 80 degrees today and I’m not freezing in upstate New York anymore.

Speaker 3:

Right.

Speaker 1:

Yeah. And my shoes don’t have holes cuz I wear flip flops.

Speaker 3:

<Laugh>. Right. They have one big hole. Yes. And it’s intentional <laugh>. Yes.

Speaker 1:

It’s supposed to be there.

Speaker 3:

Yeah. that’s good. Yeah. That, that was really good. It’s like, who cares what they’re saying. If you know that what you’re doing is the right thing to do and you’re taking that path, at least, you know, even if you mess up and fail, it was your choice and your decision. Yeah. Wasn’t someone else pushing you so mm-hmm. <Affirmative>, that was, that was really good man. This is good stuff. So, okay, Jen, besides Joe’s Good looks, what attracted to you to him when, when you first got married or when you were first dating? Was it and Joe seemed to have it going on, like knew where he was going doing some things in the real estate world. What, what would you say?

Speaker 1:

Well he wasn’t

Speaker 4:

Doing the real estate quite yet, but that was one of the first messages back and forth. I’d owned my house and I needed a little bit of work and he’s like, oh yeah, we could definitely, you know, fix it up. And I was like, okay. I grew up my dad owned a hardware, lumber yard so I was always, you know, there as a little girl worked there in my teens and so I’ve always known my way around that and yeah, I was kinda like, okay, like I couldn’t, I knew I couldn’t marry a guy who like couldn’t be handy and fix things. Yeah. So that was definitely a plus. He did he just always was treating me really well, honestly. Like I’d never met anybody who was just so kind and that literally we would just talk for hours and hours and like that connection of being able to sit and have conversations until 3:00 AM where he’s almost falling asleep.

And I, my driveway we’re just chatting. I had never had that connection before so we knew pretty early. It seemed like forever. But we, we got engaged in 2009. So like what, a year and a half after knowing each other. And then married in 2010. So we knew that we wanted to spend time together, like he said earlier. And once we started accumulating the properties, it was like, oh yeah, like I would love to own a business with you one day. Not really knowing what that would really look like, but it sounded great and we knew we wanted to see more of each other. And then it all kind of happened a little bit sooner than we realized it. Yeah. We were going to.

Speaker 3:

That’s awesome. So at that point you were not in real estate, but in going into like starting to ramp up, maybe do the business together and see things, I I love that. I want to dive into that in a little bit. And the

Speaker 1:

First email Jen sent me, she’s like, I hope out I’m not putting my foot in my mouth but <laugh>,

Speaker 4:

I did say that. I forget exactly what I said. Do you

Speaker 1:

Remember? She was like something to the tune of like, you know, oh remember I like person who’s, you know, trying to get more out of life. Yeah. And is a hardworking person and that’s what I seem to align best with. And I’m like, oh girl, you have no idea. Well I just,

Speaker 4:

Many people they like don’t reach their potential and they don’t for more. And I’m like, I’m not to be like an overachiever, but I just knew like there’s so much more out of life than just sitting there watching movies and you know, playing video games. Yeah. And nothing wrong with that, but I always knew even I was just teaching middle school kids, like there’s so much more out there and I,

Speaker 3:

That’s <laugh> that’s great advice cuz honestly that’s what I love about when I get couples on here and they seem to like each other, is that they found someone who has the goals. You know, like that you’re going on, you know, like this journey together, which I do. And what you said about Joe, the kindness, the hard work, you’re like, a lot of that comes through both of your posts. Like I see your posts like on Facebook and Instagram and like what you’re doing and it’s like, I could tell you care. So you care. You’re like, first I was probably there for each other. Now it’s like you’re ca now you’re making an impact on lots of people together. So Jen, I have to ask you, what was your background, you know, as a kid, teenager, like did you have exposure? Like he had a lot of exposure to <laugh>. We, as we dug in, not only was there grandparents in real estate, his parents were in real estate but then had some tough times which helped him overcome some harder, you know, like some of those circumstances up front. But then had a millionaire mentor of mine, like Joe’s got an interesting background. Not, and like did you come from j o b blue collar family or like where did you come from in all this mix?

Speaker 4:

Yeah, so my mom was a stay at home mom, which I, I loved and I knew I wanted to be one as well. I, I truly loved the impact that she had on their, I have two younger sisters as well, so I was the oldest of three. Yeah. definitely, you know, brought up I would say middle class we didn’t have a ton of money Yeah. Growing up. But I didn’t notice that, you know, there wasn’t a thing back then like, you know, name brand labeled all that. Like I was just a happy kid. Yeah. who, you know, we did go on family vacations, we did enjoy Disney World. So I definitely, our family was, you know, doing fairly well. My dad took over my grandfather’s business so he, I came from the entrepreneur world where he ran a business. He worked six days the week and on the seventh day he was running around trying to catch up on all the things that he couldn’t do the rest of the week. So my dad was like super hardworking and I think I definitely get that from him. Doesn’t, he never knows when to rest.

Speaker 3:

Right. Joe is vigorously shaking his head If you cannot see him and you’re just listening, he’s like, yes, she is a very hard worker so That’s awesome.

Speaker 4:

Yeah. but we, you know, I just feel like that, I think it’s really, I wanted to work for myself but I didn’t even know it, you know, cause I went off to be a teacher and once I got into the teaching realm I loved being a teacher but I, I don’t know, I just don’t like people telling me what to do. <Laugh>, to be honest, <laugh>

Speaker 3:

Oh the

Speaker 4:

Rules. But you know, I really like the freedom of you know, being able to do what I wanna do and make the impacts when it fits best and and how to kinda run the day. So that part of me for sure.

Speaker 3:

So you had that in you cuz then when you both wanted to start the business and get, you know it off the ground, that probably appealed to that side of who you are as well too. Like you’ve seen that from your dad but then also <laugh>. I don’t want people telling me what to do, you know, or that side of it. That’s definitely the mark of an entrepreneur. I feel very,

Speaker 4:

Very, yes. And I have to say I did have one interesting experience. It was a summer like 2004 I think it was. Yeah. and I was able to go nanny for one of the Lehman Brothers on South Hampton. So like in this big mansion down from Kelvin Klein’s house on a beach house. And so I was like the hired help and I got to see how that other half lived. So I too had a little bit of an experience. They were like Wow, okay, like this, this is what money does for you and this is what you can also provide for other people because they were constantly giving away to this charity or helping this cause. And so it was really cool to be a part of that family. And they were phenomenal people like super down to earth. Their kids were awesome. So it was kind of neat to have that little experience and I made just as much as I did teaching. Go figure, just nannying children taking them to Starbucks and tennis lessons <laugh>.

Speaker 3:

That’s great. So then you got exposure to like to that side and it could probably open your mind a little bit. It’s just like, you know, the getting around that it, if you’ve never been around it, you just don’t know that it’s out there or what’s even possible would you say, okay, let’s fast forward, we’re gonna fast forward now to where you are today. One of the reasons you moved, like even when we’ve talked or I’ve, I’ve seen you post this as well too, but I’ve also, and I don’t just stock you. I see, I see your posts. I see other people’s posts too. I feel like I keep saying that. It’s like I right. Oh my gosh here. But this is where you moved to Florida and one of the big reasons was to also homeschool. Right. And like to put your kids in a different environment as well. So do you wanna talk about like the the thinking process or the decision making process of moving from upstate to New York, you know and New York area to Florida?

Speaker 4:

Well I selfishly will a hundred percent admit I’ve had a dream to move to Florida like my entire life. It seems that’s

Speaker 3:

Not selfish to admit. That’s great. Like that’s a dream and you’ve achieved it like Yeah And I’m not gonna ask you how old you are by when you achieved it, but like you achieved it by however old you are now too. It’s like who cares? You’ve done it today. But I digress. I’ll let you keep talking.

Speaker 4:

Yeah, well I just remember coming down as a kid being like, this is amazing. Like that vacation feeling of it being warm. Yes. In the middle of February with the palm trees. It’s something about a palm tree. Right? Right. So I knew if I got him to come down for like at least a month now that we work from home, we’re like stuck inside. It’s freezing cold, it’s gray And he is like, yeah we can do that. We’ll take the kids. As we decided to homeschool cuz the whole covid thing, I was like done trying to virtual school and we knew we wanted to travel so I definitely want to travel more in our future. But the first step of our travels was to come down to Florida for one month and then it turned into three months and then I was like, I’m not leaving <laugh> definitely a little annoying to the point where he is like okay. And he started looking, we found a beautiful home to stay in down here. So we had 45 days to go back to New York, pack up our entire house for the last 15 years, sell the stuff that we didn’t need, fill a dumpster, fix what, you know, we’ve been kind of procrastinating on cause we were just kinda living there. Yeah. And made it beautiful. Sold it and here we are.

Speaker 3:

So real estate gave you that freedom too. Yeah. To be able to come down here. Hundred percent. So

Speaker 1:

Absolutely. Yeah. Cause at this point we’ve been self-employed for now three years. Right,

Speaker 3:

Okay.

Speaker 1:

And we were, we broke the corporate shackles right, yes. Of, of having that. So when we were working from home, we were just tired of working all winter in New York. So that’s where she came up with the idea, let’s go to Florida. And I was like, well I can’t go for a week, we might as well go for a month. And we were homeschooling anyway so it just felt right. And then when we got down here it got a little awkward because we’d be walking through public shopping and she’s like, I’m not leaving. Like just randomly blurting it out. <Laugh> to the point where I had to look at the kids like, guys either we’re gonna go back to New York without mom or we’re gonna have to stay here. And they’re like, wait, what? And I’m like, we’re gonna move. And

Speaker 4:

Then so they’ve been a huge part of the process too. We’ve always checked in with them, you know, do you wanna go back to New York? And they’re like, oh I miss a little bit of my friends or the snow from time to time. But they too love being able to just run outside and be active. I mean we like, there’s just always some place to go someplace to see something new, to see the beaches, the nature. So it’s, it’s definitely been a, it’s been a lot to try to juggle it all at once. It was definitely not easy. I don’t wanna paint a picture like oh everything’s been like, you know, peachy keen. But it’s definitely been the hard work. We gotta find the right people. We opened up an office down here so that was huge. We went all virtual to an in-house employees. Finding babysitters. Oh it’s been really tricky. Like we found a great babysitter but then we hired her for an employee <laugh>. Nice.

Speaker 3:

<Laugh> always be hiring as a Yeah. Yeah that’s good stuff. Awesome. No that’s, I love it. I love what freedom that you have from real estate investing and then being able to make those decisions. Sounds like you included your family. And it’s also the things you’re not saying that teach some of the biggest lessons too of like we can do this. You know, like the, what we’re being able to provide and get open up their minds as well too as and as the little sponges that they are just soaking up every single moment of every day. So that’s great. So this is the prop first R II podcast. We should definitely talk about that. So I wanna know because oh man. But I’ve loved talking about your story cuz I feel like it touches on so many points where people struggle of like could be family that’s in the way or it could be like, could be distance of where do you want to be, what are the things that would make you a a more fulfilled person Or like making sure that you’ve got everything that you need, where you want it, when you want it.

Being able to teach your kids the different lessons and like just all the good stuff here that we’ve talked about private first. So let’s talk about that. What got you even into that? Like did you read the original book and you were like oh man this is great. Or I’ve had people read it and be like oh my gosh this is scaring the fire out of me. Like what’s going on? So what was your experience being exposed to profit first?

Speaker 4:

I think it was me, I’m a book nerd so being heavily in the Instagram community, I think somebody posted your book and I was like, oh this sounds like something I need to read. I had not read the original. Okay. And I was, I was definitely told like you need to get the one about real estate investing. I was like okay. So I remember I even ordered it and it had it sitting there in my office and we had Gary and Susan over to help us with the Sharper Solutions. Oh

Speaker 3:

Nice.

Speaker 4:

And they mentioned they knew you. I was like, I have his book. And like, did you read it? I was like, not yet. You know, you need to read it. So that’s great that, you know, I knew that there’s some concepts in there that we definitely could apply because you know, I was an English teacher so this is definitely not something like I had any education on but you know, the whole concept of as you call it, like the envelope system, like that’s something that every person needs to really implement. And so even though we were organized, things could be even more organized. Yeah. Is definitely something we took away.

Speaker 3:

So have you implemented, have you opened up any bank accounts? Have you started down that road? I, I’m gonna put you on the spot here. Right, right in front of everyone.

Speaker 1:

Yeah. So we actually just spent and we are, since we moved to Florida, we are restructuring our business.

Speaker 3:

Oh cool.

Speaker 1:

Even just how we did it. You know, we had a, a lawsuit when somebody was delivering a refrigerator to one of our properties who slipped and fell in the driveway and you know, things like that. So you learn from these things, everything worked out fine but you learn from these things. So we are currently in the mode of restructuring our businesses is how we’re gonna have our, our asset protection and Yes. You know, filling your empire. And then we just spent like three hours at Chase Bank setting up new accounts and they’re like, okay listen like lady, you have to go get lunch and we do too. So we’re gonna reconvene and come back more cuz we have to set up everything more. So it’s the same thing as setting up when you talk about having the six different accounts. Because also too with private lending Yes. You know, you talk about having that sixth account for that and that’s where when we do some of our deals we haven’t yet, but I could see that starting to open up. So that’s like the next step of what we’re also gonna be doing Good. And how we have our LLCs structured by having one home llc then having, you know, sub LLCs underneath that. So between that and then we also do some ira.

Speaker 3:

Okay.

Speaker 1:

So there was just basically, and part of it which is absolutely nuts is not only are is our business growing, we have a team here. I look at her and I’m like okay, end of this year, beginning of next year, like this is our goal. We are changing everything and the look of terror on both of our faces, it wasn’t just hers was nuts but now we’re making our way through it and it’s been cleaning up things and just making life a lot easier. Yeah. So we have to go back for another appointment and set up a ton more. But I did have a conversation with their one of their I guess bigwigs at the bank and he’s like, I can make this way easier if you just email me everything that you need. I’m like perfect. Oh there

Speaker 3:

You go. Yeah. Well that’s good. I was gonna say hopefully you got in with someone like make it easier. So use Relay or something like use something that’s gonna be a little bit easier to set these up. But No that’s awesome. I’m glad you at least started down the road. How did you make, is it okay, is it from personal experience yet that you can say if I, if my parents would’ve had this system and could have at least helped them because you made that statement a while ago while we were talking and where does that come from? Is it just because you’ve seen what I’ve put out there in the book or like now that you’re starting to set it up you could see like okay this is a good system. Like where does that, that statement, where did it come from?

Speaker 1:

Well I think it’s because of clarity, right? Ooh, clarity cause of clarity of everything that’s going and the health of your business. And so, and just like being able to open up the hood to a car and find out what’s wrong with it and tinkering it. But you don’t have to, it’s just shown right in your face now.

Speaker 3:

Right.

Speaker 1:

And I think that clarity, which is key, right? So if you have a non-performing property or things like that, you know where everything is going and I think that’s crucial. Yeah. Opposed to having it all one big pop and praying and spraying that it all goes well, right. Like it’s not, it’s not how it’s gonna be best suited because once again one project could tie this up and it just becomes a, a mess.

Speaker 3:

Right.

Speaker 1:

And I think the clarity of moving forward the way the system is supposed to be set up and the way, especially like what we have ours with our LLCs and, and land trust and things like that. Yeah. This is, it just makes life a lot easier for everybody. And so we don’t have to spend hours looking at each other either saying why do we have all this money or where did all the money go?

Speaker 3:

Right.

Speaker 1:

And that’s the key. So I think mostly what it is is, like I said earlier, I don’t think success is, it’s not an accident. Like it’s well-planned.

Speaker 3:

Yeah, right. Give yourself the, the most, the most chance for success as possible. Right.

Speaker 1:

Well and I think that’s cause if my parents obviously had either they weren’t collecting rent or one way or another had more going out than they had coming in.

Speaker 3:

Right.

Speaker 1:

And that’s the key to failure,

Speaker 3:

Right? Yeah I’m kidding. There’s the key there. You could write the key to unsuccessful business and have the little have more going out to come and man, I, I keep telling people I should write profit last and tell the stories I’ve heard of people on the phone of like how they’re making profit last. But I digress there again too. You did say one other thing Joe that said one of the things that is kind of still pushing you even today is that fear. And I’m wondering can you see if your fear is gonna be any less with a system like this on the back end? Cuz that that’s really what a lot of us fear is the fear of failing and the fear of going out of business and like not having to, not being able to provide to live in Ford and stuff. So was that kinda like for the last few years, have you kind of had that fear buzzing and does, you know, like is this gonna be some part of the light maybe of helping you work through some of that? Like I just wanna talk about that cuz you said fear still pushes you today, which I totally understand. Like I don’t want you to go back to holes in your shoes, right? And like before you or your kids or for Jen or anyone.

Speaker 1:

Well and I think that’s kind of the point is what, I guess the best lessons that you can learn are from other people’s mistakes. Yeah.

So you don’t make those mistakes yourself, right? Yeah. So what was the, what was the issue with their business, right? What was the issue with this business? What can I learn from this and then what can I implement into my business? And then you also surround yourself with fantastic people who are successful, have a great track record who have, well, you know, proven methods, obviously yourself, you wrote this book, right? So you know, you find the, the Gary and Susan Harpers of the world who are just fantastic people. We find folks like you now cuz we’re introduced to you because of them. And this is the, the power of having a great network, you know, a great set of people around you rather they come into your life one way or another. Either sometimes it’s free, sometimes you pay them, it doesn’t matter. They’re impacting your life, they’re helping you move into the direction that you wanna go, which is further from where your fear starts, right? Yeah.

Speaker 3:

So I

Speaker 1:

Don’t look behind me, I look forward and I guess I don’t let that fear scare me. I just continue to look forward and don’t look behind me.

Speaker 3:

Well that’s good stuff man. This is, and I sorry for taking you back down the path backwards, but I wanted to get your story. Just kidding. No, this is good stuff Joe. Jen, this has been awesome. I think we’ve provided a lot of value here. I probably need to get you back on the podcast like once these accounts are set up, like maybe six months, 12 months down the road we can do another one and see, see an update because this has been a lot of fun talking with you. But I love both stories here, both sides of Joe, from your background real estate and seeing honestly a pr a pretty bad situation, but then some good and then seeing, you know, taking that and running with it now and like being that entrepreneur and then Jen seeing <laugh> where you came from as well too.

Like you got to see some of that in the background, but then also of like you taking that leap as of faith as well too. It’s one thing to see your dad or someone else be an entrepreneur, but then you sit in that seat, it’s a much different feeling. So it’s like I commend both of you, but then I love that we talked about how sometimes certain close people in our life can be some of the people that are pushing us away the most from what we should be doing. And it’s like working through that, whether it’s family, friends or like, you just have to grow through that thought. That was awesome. Become a rhino. That thick skin, that was such a great analogy as well too. And then making sure that you have that clarity for the health of your business so that way, you know, whether, whether it, and I love how Joe you put it there very simply is more going out than is coming in.

We have a problem, Houston, we have a problem here. So thank you so much. I just wanna ask one more question. I also, if you’re listening to this, I endorse Joe and Jen very much like what they’re teaching and their stuff. So like how do people get more of you? So like where do they go? You, you teach people as well too and have a group and a program like, and I fully endorse that. So like where do they go? How could they get in touch with you? What’s the best way to connect with the Della Faves?

Speaker 4:

Yeah, we’re all over. You can definitely start with our website creative finance playbook.com and from there you can definitely find us on YouTube, Instagram. I post a little bit more than Joe does. Jen de Fave is my name. And then on Facebook, creative Finance Playbook with Jen and Joe. We both have Facebook presences there, but yeah, we, we love social. So send us a message, send us an email. We’d love to see how we can help. If you’re looking to do some real estate without having to, you know, go to the banks and take out loans and definitely not use your own credit <laugh>,

Speaker 3:

Right? There we go. So creative finance playbook.com is the big one where they can go to, that would be probably a one stop shop. Like that would help if you’re looking to get into real estate or do it creatively or like add this piece to your business, that’d be a good place to start. Follow them on social media. Like I said, they’re posting really good and motivational things and like their journey, but then also how to do these deals. You know, like making sure that you can see what it also affords you as a real estate investor, as a human being of like, here you go. Here’s what living your purpose looks like. So that’s where you could go to creative finance playbook.com. We’ll put that in the show notes too. This was a lot of fun. Thank you so much for being on here.

And if you’re listening to this podcast right now and you’re like, I do never want to go bankrupt and I ne and I want to make sure that I have more coming in than going out and you’re like, I have no idea if it’s coming in and out, go to simple cfo.com. We have our team there. We can help implement Profit first. We can make sure you have that clarity to make the best decisions possible when it comes to your money. Reach out there if we’re not the best fit, we’ll pay you to someone good in our network. Just like Gary and Susan, we might ping you to them if you need the operational help or if you need just bookkeeping or taxes. Like I want you to not worry about the financial side. So go to simple cfo.com, schedule a call there. Thank you so much again for being here. Remember, make Profit a habit in your business. Joe and Jen, thank you so much for a lot of the value that you provide here today.

Speaker 1:

Thanks David. Thank you so much David for having us on. It’s been a pleasure.

Speaker 2:

This episode of The Profit First for REI podcast is over, but there are plenty more where that came from. Are you ready to learn how David and his team can help implement the Profit First system in your business? Schedule a discovery call@simplecfo.com right now. We’ll see you next time on the Profit First for r e I podcast with David Richter.

 



Title: “Profit First Strategies with Jay Conner: The Power of Private Money”

 

Episode: 242


There are 15 reasons to love about borrowing private money over traditional money. One of them is making your own rules for your private money.

 

In this episode of Profit First for REI podcast, Jay Conner, a nationally renowned real estate investor and the king of private money. He talks about how private money works.

 

Jay helps you get your money from private lenders and will share with you the mindset that will get you money in the door without you ever having to worry about it. 

 

Listen and enjoy the show! 

 

Key Takeaways:

 

[01:01] Introducing Jay Conner

[05:00] Introduction to private money

[08:30] The Great News Phone Call

[11:23] Why don’t you use your own money?

[13:18] Maintaining relationships with private lenders

[15:40] Private money vs traditional money

[22:05] Things that make them want to recommend you

[25:18] Advice for real estate investors

[29:01] Connect with Jay Conner

 

Quotes:

 

[07:34] “If you are talking about private money and raising private money with an individual and you got a deal for them to fund, you already sounded desperate.”

 

[12:07] “If you want to scale your business, private money is the way to go.” 

 

[16:05] “In this world of private money, we make the rules. We set the interest rate, we sent the length and all of that.”



Connect with Jay:

 

Website: https://www.jayconner.com/book-details/ 

 

Tired of living deal to deal? 

If you are a real estate investor or business owner who is tired of living deal to deal and want to double your profits, head over here to book your no-obligation discovery call with me. Either myself or someone from my team will hop on a short call with you to get clear on your business goals, remove any obstacles holding you back, and map out a game plan to help you finally start keeping more of the money you work so hard to make. – David

 


Transcript:

Speaker 1 (00:00):

I got 15 reasons I love private money over traditional money. I won’t share all 15, but the biggest one is it puts you in the driver’s seat. The traditional way to borrow money is you go to the bank and get on your hands and knees and you’re begging and chasing. Well, they are making the rules right? Like the lender is making the rules. But in this world of private money, we make the rules, we set the interest rate, we set the length of the note and all that.

Speaker 2 (00:34):

If you’re a real estate investor who’s sick and tired of living deal to deal, then welcome home. Hear from everyday real estate investors just like you, and discover how they’ve completely transformed their business by taking a profit First approach. This is the profit first for REI podcast, where we believe revenue is vanity. Profit is sanity. It’s time to start making profit a habit in your business. So here’s your host, David Richter.

Speaker 3 (01:01):

We have Jay Connor back on the podcast. I love Jay Connor. He helps you get your money, the money from private lenders and that whole framework and process, but he does it from a passion and a place of heart. And servant Teachership. I feel like he goes out there and is a servant teacher of how private money works. Listen to this episode. He gives the magic question he tells about desperation and private lending, and I thought his perspective was so good, and then ultimately the mindset that will get you money in the door without you ever having to worry about it. So listen to this episode. Can’t wait for you to get value from it. Thank you for being a listener of the Profit First. RII podcast. Have a great episode. Hey, here’s the profit first RI podcast. Really excited to have Jay Connor back because he’s the came of private money. And this is where I love to go into this topic because I don’t care what kind of business you’re in, you probably need help with this, but especially if you’re in the real estate world, this comes up all the time at every event I’m at with every conversation I have. So we’re having the cane here talk about private money today. So Jay, thanks for being on the show.

Speaker 1 (02:07):

Hey David, thank you so much for having me come on here to talk about my most favorite topic. Of course, that being private money. And why is that? Because private money’s had a bigger impact on our real estate investing business than any other strategy that we’ve implemented in our business.

Speaker 3 (02:24):

Why did you go down that road though? I mean, you teach this all the time. You’re helping a ton of people, like anyone I’ve ever talked to that works with you is like he taught me how to do and I got money and it actually works. So I mean, how did you even go down that road where it made a difference on you and then you wanted to get it to others?

Speaker 1 (02:43):

Well, I actually backed into it. I didn’t do it on purpose. So here’s what happened. So my wife, Carol, joy and I, we’ve been investing in real estate, single family houses, other real estate full time here in eastern North Carolina since 2003. And here’s what happened. From 2003 until 2009, David, all I knew to do in my real estate investing business was rely on the local banks to fund my deals. I mean, all I knew to do was go to the bank, get on my hands and knees, put my hand underneath my chin, raise my skirt up so they could look at all my personal financial statements and stuff and actually beg to get my deals funded. That’s all I knew to do. And so I had a big wake up call in January of 2009 after being in this business here in Eastern North Carolina. I called up my banker.

(03:38):

I told him about these two deals I had under contract in Newport, these two single family houses. And David, I learned like that over the telephone that my line of credit had been shut down with no notice. My banker, his name was Steve, and the bank was bb and t at the time. I said, Steve, what in the world are you telling me? My line of credit is shut down. I got two deals under contract. You gave me no notice. Why is the bank closing my line of credit? He said, Jay, don’t. There’s a global financial crisis going on right now. I said, no, but now you just gave me a global financial crisis. Financial crisis, yeah, I ain’t got no way to fund my deals. And I got ’em under contract. So I hung up the phone and here’s what happened, David. I sat here and I asked myself a very important question.

(04:27):

And so I’m going to share this question with your audience right now. This question I’m going to share with you will help you solve any problem you’ve got. I don’t care if it’s business, financial, career, health, relationships. I don’t care what your problem is. By the way, David, these people going around and saying, any problem, you got some opportunity I want to throw up. I didn’t have no opportunity. I had a problem of not funding my deal. So here’s the question I asked myself. The question I asked myself was, Jay, who do you know that can help you with your problem? And when I asked myself that question, I immediately thought of my good friend Jeff, who lived in Greensboro, North Carolina at the time, and he was investing in real estate. And so I called him up and I told him what happened. And he said, well, Jay, welcome to the club.

(05:18):

I said, what club? He said, the club of the bank shutting you down and losing amount of credit. They shut me down last week. I said, well, how are you funding your deals, Jeff? He says, well, have you ever heard of private money? And I hadn’t. So Jeff told me about private money. He told me about self-directed IRAs and how people can use their retirement accounts and funds that they currently have and move them over to a self-directed IRA company and then loan that money out to us real estate investors, either tax deferred or tax free depending on the type of account they’ve got. Well, that just opened up my whole world. I’d never heard of that. And so what did I do? How did raise $2,150,000 in less than 90 days after being cut off from the bank? Well, here’s what I did, and here’s the secret sauce I put on my teacher hat.

(06:10):

So I put on my teacher cap, which is my private money teacher cap, and I just started teaching people in my own network what private money is, how they can earn high rates of returns safely and securely. And what’s interesting, Carol, joy and I, we got 47 private lenders right now. Not one of them had ever heard of private money and private lending. Not one of them had ever heard of self-directed IRA companies and what a third party custodian is. That’s important by the way, to establish a relationship with a self-directed IRA company because over half of my private lenders are using their retirement funds. And if I didn’t have that relationship to introduce them to move their retirement funds over, I’d be missing out on over half of my private money. So how did I go about raising all this money when I was cut off from the banks?

(07:02):

I led with a servant’s heart. I led with education. And here’s a really, really important point. I separated the activity. I separated the conversations of telling people what private money is and how they can earn high rates of return safely and securely and having a deal for them to fund. You see, desperation has got a smell to it. And when you talk about is that not true, David? Yeah, very true. So if you’re talking about private money and raising private money with an individual and you got a deal for them to fund, you’re already sounding desperate and you’re not even trying to sound desperate. So we don’t talk about deals and when we’re first exposing somebody to how they can earn high rates of return, we talk about private money. So how do we separate those conversations? Well, when someone has told me that they’ve got, let’s say they’ve got $150,000 they want to invest and get high rates of return conservatively, I’ll say, great, I’ll put your money to work for you just as soon as possible.

(08:11):

I don’t talk about a deal upfront. If they’ve got retirement funds that they want to get higher rates of return on, I’ll introduce ’em to the self-directed IRA company that I recommend. They’ll get their funds moved over. And so here’s what happens and here’s the magic sauce, David, I give ’em and I call ’em up with what I call the great news phone call. What in the world is the great news phone call? Well, the great news phone call is not a pitch. I’ve never pitched a deal in my life ever since I started raising private money in 2009. I pick up my handset with my cord attached to it here in North Carolina and I call some of your, don’t even know what that is. And let’s say, David, let’s say you’re one of my private lenders. So I’ll put my phone right up here and you’ll answer the phone and we’ll have a little chitchat and I’ll say, Dave, I got great news for you.

(09:06):

I can now put your money to work. I got a house in Newport with an after repaired value of $200,000. The funding requires 150. Closing is next Tuesday. You’ll need to have your funds wired to my real estate attorney next Monday. I’m going to have my real estate attorney email you the wiring instructions end of conversation. Notice I didn’t ask If you want to fund the deal, of course you want to fund the deal. You’ve been waiting for the phone call. I’ve told you the program. I’ve taught you the program, you know what kind of rate you get, what the maximum loan to value is, the program that I’ve taught you. And so now you’re waiting for the good news phone call, which I just gave you. And in addition to that, if you as my private lender, if you’ve moved your retirement funds over to a self-directed IRA company, you ain’t earning any money until I put your money to work.

(10:04):

You moved it at my recommendation. Now I’m ethically bound to put your money to work. You ain’t earning any money until you actually put her to work. So again, we separate conversations, we leave with a servant’s heart, we educate, and by the way, David, these people going around saying don’t just get the deal under contract. The money is show up. I want to throw up where is the money going to show up? Is it just going to rain out of clouds or something? No, get the money lined up and you can get it lined up fast. Just like me. There’s always going to be deals.

Speaker 3 (10:38):

Yeah. Oh man, that’s really good stuff. I love how you went down that road and it helped you personally. Now you’re just teaching a lot of people. I love that magic question. Who do you know that can help me with my problem? It’s that who, it’s not always the how. It’s the who did I know, and in that point it really helped you. I also run into a lot of times, I don’t know if you see this, where there’s someone who’s like, I could save a couple interest points if I just use my own money versus a private lender’s funds. What are your thoughts on that of always taking down your own deals versus going out there and putting the work into getting a private lender?

Speaker 1 (11:17):

Sure, I get that question all the time. They say, Jay, you making all that money? Why don’t you use your own money to invest in real estate? Why are you still borrowing private money? Well, here’s the answer. If you’re just going to do one deal, that’s a great use of your money. That’s a fantastic use of your money. But do you want to scale your business? I mean, right now we’ve got seven different projects going on, single family houses simultaneously. Well, I don’t want my money buried in seven houses or projects simultaneously, which here in our local market can easily be over 3 million with the prices of our homes. So if you want to scale and really, I mean most people have got a bottom of the bucket in their checkbook. So if you want to scale your business, then private money is the way to go. Another answer to that question is, do I want to pay myself 8% or do I want to use my money for something else,

Speaker 3 (12:22):

Right? Yep.

Speaker 1 (12:24):

So that’s a couple of answers to why I use private lending and why I’m still using 47 private lenders,

Speaker 3 (12:33):

Which is great. I love what you said. If you want to scale, it can run out of cash real quick. If you just keep using your own money where a lot of people have to choose between, okay, paying some percentage points or sleeping at night, and it’s like, I think I like your option a whole lot better, especially if you’re looking to grow. But I like how you said that one deal. That’s okay, but if you are looking to be a real estate investor, this is something you’re going to have to go down that road. Now, last time I asked you some questions about the private lending process. I don’t think I asked this one though, is how do you maintain a relationship with that many private lenders? You’ve got 47 people in your network that you call up with the good news call. So is it like how do you maintain a relationship with all those people?

Speaker 1 (13:22):

I mail ’em checks.

Speaker 3 (13:25):

I love that. That’s a great answer. Oh man. No better way to keep a relationship there.

Speaker 1 (13:33):

I mean, they love getting money in the mail, right? Yeah. They love mailbox money, so I mail ’em checks.

Speaker 3 (13:41):

So you mail ’em checks. So you’ve built a good enough business where you can keep 47 lenders busy and their money active.

Speaker 1 (13:50):

Well, to be totally transparent, I mean, it is a juggling act to tell you the truth. I mean, there’s more money than there is deals.

Speaker 3 (14:00):

Yep.

Speaker 1 (14:01):

There’s more money than there is deals. And so we got 47 private lenders. Some of them have got $30,000 with us, some of ’em have got a million dollars with us. I can’t buy a house for 30,000, but I can use 30,000 for rehab money. You can use private money, borrow private money in a junior position, you’ve got to disclose that. But I can put private money in a junior lien. But what comes into play there is what we call total loan to value. So I’m not going to be borrowing more than 75% of the after repaired value. I didn’t say the purchase price 75% of the after repaired value. But let’s say back to that example that we just talked about, David, where if I’ve got a after repaired value on a home of 200,000 for easy figuring, I can borrow up to 150,000. That’s 75% of the after repaired value. But if I buy it for a hundred thousand, which I do all the time, 50% of the after repaired value, I can have a private lender in first position at a hundred grand. I could have another private lender in second position at 50 grand. So add a hundred to the 50, now one 50 divided by 200,000 after repaired value, I got a total loan to value of still 75%.

Speaker 3 (15:27):

Yeah, I love that. And it seems like private money gives you flexibility and

Speaker 1 (15:32):

Options. Does that make sense?

Speaker 3 (15:34):

Yeah, that makes sense. A hundred percent.

Speaker 1 (15:37):

Oh, absolutely. Flexibility is where it’s all at. I got 15 reasons. I love private money over traditional money. I won’t share all 15, but the biggest one is it puts you in the driver’s seat. The traditional way to borrow money is you go to the bank and get on your hands and knees and you’re begging and chasing, well, they are making the rules, right? The lender is making the rules. But in this world of private money, we make the rules, we set the interest rate, we set the length of the node and all that.

Speaker 3 (16:14):

I love that. Flexibility is the ultimate play in real estate. You want to have flexibility and you want to be able to have that. So I love what you teach. Who is the person that you’re trying to teach out there? Is it the person that’s done one deal a thousand deals? Who are you trying to help the most with your business?

Speaker 1 (16:33):

Yeah, that’s interesting. At my live events, which is called the private money conference, and my live events, we have about 60% or so have already done deals. They’ve already done deals. They want to scale their business. They are real estate investors wanting to scale their business, and about 40% are looking to get their very first deal. So I’m helping everybody. I mean Stu and Harriet Baldwin from New York State, they enrolled and joined my mastermind membership community and they already had a portfolio of a hundred houses. They’d already raised over $2 million in private money, but they wanted to see how I went about it. Well, just one webinar that I recorded with them brought in 1.2 million in additional private private money. So I’ve worked with real estate investors that are brand new and those that are also seasoned to help them get more private money ready to go for their business.

Speaker 3 (17:33):

I love that. It sounds like a lot of people out there need private money, and even if you’re just getting started, if you don’t have the funds to do that first deal, like you mentioned, you do that first deal, that one deal at a time, it might be okay, but this sounds like a great spot where if you’re getting into it or if you’ve got lots of stuff going on, this could be another way to make sure your company can keep running without what you ran into with the banks back in 2007, eight or oh nine. Would you say that’s true as well?

Speaker 1 (18:04):

Absolutely. Absolutely. I mean, I’ve met very, very few people. In fact, I can’t even think of one. I haven’t met any real estate investor that says, I got enough money.

Speaker 3 (18:20):

Yeah, me either.

Speaker 1 (18:22):

I can’t use any more private money. However, David, you are looking at one right now. I got about almost $2 million right now, what I call sitting on the shelf waiting to be deployed. And I tell you what, I’ve had new private lenders come into my world that want to invest and just to prove to them that I can perform. I’ll take the new private lender’s money and pay off a current private lender, refinance the deal so I can get their money to work for ’em, right?

Speaker 3 (18:53):

Ah, yep, that makes sense. I like that. As you grow and scale, you might run into that issue and you make one lender a little bit happy. I mean, at least they’re getting paid off, but then they probably come back to you and say, I want you to put my money to work again. Do you have that come up a lot?

Speaker 1 (19:12):

Quite frankly, when I pay ’em off, they’re not happy.

Speaker 3 (19:17):

That’s why I said just a little happy, maybe a little bit.

Speaker 1 (19:20):

But when I pay ’em off, they’re not making any money on that money. In fact, with a new private lender, I’ll get ready to pay ’em off cashing out on a deal and I’ll call ’em up and say, Hey, just want you to know that you’re going to have a check coming in the mail from a real estate attorney’s trust account. We’re paying off this house. And they’ll say, Jay, can’t you just keep the money? And I’ll go, no, I can’t keep the money unless I’ve got your money secured by a property because we do not borrow unsecured funds. Now, here’s maybe a little advanced strategy for some folks, but I do substitutions of collateral or loan modifications all the time. If it’s a small amount of money that a private lender’s invested 30, 40, $50,000, and we use it for rehabbing a property. So when I’ve got another property I’m getting ready to start on, I’ll substitute the collateral and keep that 30 or $50,000 note in play. So they keep earning money on that money, but we will substitute the collateral just to a different project that we’re moving to.

Speaker 3 (20:25):

That’s awesome. So then sounds like you have a good problem. It’s like, I want that. Well, I think a lot of real estate investors would rather the problem, I have too much money versus I’ve got these deals and I can’t fund them. So I really like how you teach people that and where it could snowball into this, where it’s like, I’ve got 47 private lenders, I’ve got to go out there and get the deals for ’em. Absolutely. And I really like that. And

Speaker 1 (20:50):

For goodness sakes, you don’t start out with 47 private lenders. I started out with one, right? I started out with one and then that quickly became two and three and four and five because private lenders tell other people what’s going on. So I haven’t actively attracted private money for years because our current private lenders just keep sending us people. In fact, day before yesterday, day before yesterday, I got a phone call from the mother of a good friend of mine, his name’s Craig, lives in Newburg, North Carolina. Craig had told his mother about this investment thing that I got going on and she had never heard of it, which is really funny. I’ve been doing it now private money since 2009. So she calls me up and she says, Hey, my son’s been telling me about this investment thing you got going on. Tell me about it. So word of mouth gets around very, very quickly when you start doing business with private lenders the way I do.

Speaker 3 (21:53):

Yeah, I like that a lot. So in order to get people to talk like that, what are the biggest things that you do for your current private lenders that makes them want to recommend you?

Speaker 1 (22:07):

Well pay ’em on time.

Speaker 3 (22:08):

There you go. That’s a big one. Sounds like that would be a really great place to start.

Speaker 1 (22:12):

Pay ’em on time. But I also have three times a year I put on a party for our private lenders at the Dunes Club. So we have three times a year a VIP reception over at the Dunes Club on the beach, and it’s just an evening of private lenders getting together and we have a good old time and I feed them and give them all the soft shell crabs they want, and I tell ’em to bring their friends with them.

Speaker 3 (22:42):

Yeah, that’s awesome. So number one though, that anyone can do at any stage is pay people on time. So actually pay, would you say, what about communication? I hear that come up sometimes too. How do you do a good job on the communication with your private lenders as well?

Speaker 1 (23:03):

Well, it must be good enough. They never go away,

Speaker 3 (23:06):

Right? Yeah, that’s the big things I hear.

Speaker 1 (23:10):

Here’s one thing I have not delegated as far as communication. I personally, I mean my relationships with my private lenders are very, very important. So I personally pick up the phone, pick up the phone, and call my private lenders when I have got a deal for them to fund. I do not delegate that out. I could

(23:37):

Delegate that out, but I don’t, when I got a deal for them to fund, I’m the person on the phone keeping that relationship When I’m getting ready to pay them off. I don’t have a check just show up in the mail. Of course they got to sign a payoff instruction letter if a different closing agent is closing it for a buyer. But before any of that happens, I personally call ’em up and I tell ’em that we’ve got that property sold. We’re getting ready to pay you off. Or I’ll call ’em up and I’ll say, Hey, we’re getting ready to pay this property off, but I will keep your note open so you can keep earning money. I’m just going to substitute the collateral. We got some documents we’re going to email to you for you to sign and send back the communication. I’m personally involved in putting their money to work and letting them know when we’re cashing out and where they are on the deal.

Speaker 3 (24:31):

That’s awesome. Then since it’s the profit first I podcast here, I love this concept of the private money because you need your cash in your accounts. So to be able to run your business, do those things, and then setting up a separate account just for your private money lenders, so it makes it easier to do what Jay just told you to pay them back, to pay them back on time to be in good communication with them. So now this has been really good. Do you have any other advice before I ask you? How could they work with you? How can they get in touch with, because I know this is something that is needed desperately, that I send people your way all the time. I know I trust you to help people, but any other last minute advice here that you would give to the real estate investors listening to the podcast?

Speaker 1 (25:18):

Sure. I appreciate you asking that question. It’s going to be very hard to own a lot of real estate

(25:26):

Until you own the real estate between your ears. So what do I mean by that? People ask me, how do I start? How do I start raising money? I can tell you how you start raising private money. You get your heart right, you get your mindset right. So what do I mean by that? Well, what do you do? You lead with a servant’s heart, you lead with education, you put your private lender money hat on, you private lender, teacher hat on, and you leave with education, don’t pitch deals, and you really, really are concerned about the other person and realize, part of this mindset is realize you’ve got an opportunity to change people’s lives, right?

Speaker 3 (26:11):

That’s so good.

Speaker 1 (26:13):

We’ve got countless people that are particularly in their retirement years, that have thanked me and Carol Joy for making a difference in their retirement years to where they can, I mean, they don’t want to touch their principal. They want to live off of their principal investment. So they’ve been able to travel, go see grandkids, do all this stuff that they couldn’t do otherwise until they got involved in our program. So just know that you’ve got a way to really make an impact on other people’s lives. And lemme tell you another part of mindset. It ain’t about reaping. It’s not about reaping. It’s all about sowing. It’s all about sowing. I can’t be reaping all that private money and deals until I have sown and given and led with value first. So how you sow is how you’re going to reap.

Speaker 3 (27:08):

Yeah. Oh man, this is so good. I’m glad I asked that question because I hear the passion in your voice and I hear that you really care about the people you work with, the people that have private money lenders out there, you care about that relationship. I love what you said. Get your heart right, get your head right. I also think, like you said too, that if they don’t have that desperation has a smell. So if you’re out there, you’re desperate and you’re just going out there, then you won’t have people like you have that want to keep coming back, that want to continuously invest in you. So that was, I think, the best advice that you could give right there. Get it between your ears and get your heart right. I absolutely love that. And just to recap too, I love your magic question.

(27:55):

Who do you know that can help me with my problem? Then one day you’re going to wake up and you’re going to be like Jay, and you’re going to be helping other people with their problem. I’ve got money. I want to put it somewhere, and you’re the able to get them to where they can be. Desperation has a smell. I love that. And then honestly, I love that pivot. You are like, it’s not about the reaping, it’s not about the interest that I’m making or the profit I’m making for the deal. It’s more about sowing those seeds and ultimately you’re changing lives. That’s why you get private money, and it’s like that interest that you’re paying them is twofold. It’s like you get to sleep at night, you’re not using all your money and you’re getting to help someone else get a return that they wouldn’t be able to get anywhere else or in someone that they trust as well too, and that’s a little bit more tangible than the stock markets or all this other Bitcoin, some of that stuff that’s floating around out there. So this has been awesome. So how do people then, Jay, take that next step with you? Do you have a book? You talked about an event. What can people do?

Speaker 1 (29:01):

Absolutely. Well for your audience, David, I’ve got two gifts. First of all, I finished writing my book Where to Get the Money. Now, this is not a ebook. This is a book book that we actually send in the mail Autographic where to get the money. Now the subtitle is How and Where to Get Money for Your Real Estate Deals Without Relying on Hard Money Lenders or Traditional Lenders. It’ll walk you through step by step how to get all the private money you would want. Very, very easy to read. It’s $20 on Amazon, but you can get it for free. Being David’s audience, just cover shipping. You can go to www dot j Connor, J-A-Y-C-O-N-N-E r.com/book. So I’m an er, not an or. So that’s j Connor, J-A-Y-C-O-N-N-E r.com/book, and we’ll three day priority mail it out to you. Now, in addition to that, I’ve got an upcoming $3,000 per ticket live event right around the corner. But for your audience, Dave, I’m going to let everybody come for free with a measly $97 registration fee. This private money event. You can check it out at www.theprivatemoneyconference.com. The private money conference.com. That’s coming up right around the corner in June. Get on over there. Registrations are open, and I’d love to meet you in person at the private money conference.com.

Speaker 3 (30:31):

Awesome. I’m excited about that too. I love what you’re doing and you’re solving a big need that we hear all the time. Just like all people always needing to sharpen their acts when it comes to private money, you graciously have also invited me there to speak about Profit First. So I’m excited to get to tell people about that so they can get more private money and be more confident and not be desperate when they go and ask for people. So I’m really excited about that as well. So make sure we’re going to put those links there, but make sure either get his book or go to that event. I cannot endorse Jay Moore because I know how many people he helps, but then he also has the heart. You heard it right here. That’s how he wants to help you too. It’s very much a heart and a mission and a passion for him.

(31:13):

So Jay, thank you for coming on, for sharing your wisdom, your knowledge today. If you are listening to this episode and you feel stuck like, what the heck is going on? Where is my money? I don’t know what to do. I’m a little bit nervous to go out there and get private money. I can’t keep my own house in order. That’s where you could go to simple cfo.com where we can help you walk you through that process. We’ll link you up to Jay too. If you need private money or need to learn about private money, this is who we recommend. I recommend Jay to many people, so make sure that if you need that help you go to simple cfo.com. But Jay, again, thank you for being on the show and sharing your wisdom here today.

Speaker 1 (31:51):

David, thank you so much for having me. God bless you.

Speaker 2 (31:54):

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