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Overcoming the Challenge of Fear in Real Estate With Brad Blazar

Episode 105: Overcoming the Challenge of Fear in Real Estate With Brad Blazar

The Profit First REI Podcast

August 18, 2022

David Richter

Summary:
Brad Blazar has studied the habits of success. He’s an expert when it comes to raising capital and has been raising hard-earned money since the young age of 23. After years of managing his oil company, Brad realized that his true passion lay in helping others while still raising money for himself.

Brad’s coaching program , Capital School, has garnered praise across the globe and is highly recognized in the REI space. Helping budding real estate geeks on their business journey.

Today, we invited him over to have a chat with us and talk about how to climb up that success ladder the smart way.

Key Takeaways:

[2:16] How did he start on his real estate journey?

[5:46] He learned the value of trust and building relationships with the people around him

[7:53] The story of how he launched his first oil business at the age of 23

[12:21] Does he teach people how to raise money from different sources?

[15:23] How to get off the transactional treadmill and create a passive lifestyle through commercial real estate

[16:27] Tips on how to raise money the easy way

Quotes:

[16:56] “We, as human beings, know how our brains are wired, are not wired to be successful. Our brain is programmed into one thing and that is to keep us alive. “

[21:46] “Investors do not invest in great ideas.”

Links:

Brad’s Website-https://www.bradblazar.com 

Books by Brad Blazar-https://www.bradblazar.com/the-book 

Capital School-https://www.bradblazar.com/capitalschool 

Tired of living deal to deal? 

If you are a real estate investor or business owner who is tired of living deal to deal, and want to double your profits, head over here to book your no-obligation discovery call with me. Either myself or someone from my team will hop on a short call with you to get clear on your business goals, remove any obstacles holding you back, and map out a game plan to help you finally start keeping more of the money you work so hard to make. – David 

Transcript:

Brad Blazar:

We as human beings, the way our brains are wired are not wired to thrive and be successful. Flat out. Our brain is programmed to do one thing and that’s keep us alive.

Intro:

Welcome to the Profit First REI podcast, where real estate investors, master financial management, eradicate entrepreneurial poverty, and learn to be profitable from day one. Now for your host, David Richter,

David Richter:

Everyone. Welcome back to the Profit First REI podcast. I’m your host David Richter. And I have another special guest here today, Brad blazer. And if you haven’t heard of Brad, I don’t know how you have it because he has done some incredible things. He has raised over several billion dollars with a B in capital over his lifetime. He has also done a lot of the rehabbing space and he’s created big syndications. He, and now he teaches people as well, how to raise money and does puts on some events and stuff. And like, this is a guy who doesn’t just teach it, he’s done it and is doing it still. So that’s what I love. He’s got several books. I want him to talk about those books that he has, you know, available on Amazon because he is an expert on raising money, getting it out there. And then also something we probably don’t think about as much if you’re a mom and pop wholesaler or fix and flipper or landlord that, you know, exiting businesses and like starting up, you know, and those, those types of things as well too. And he’s an expert in that and can speak to that as well and how he and how he looks at those different types of businesses. But Brad, super excited to have you on today. Thanks for being on the podcast.

Brad Blazar:

Great. Thanks so much, Dave. I’m real excited to be here today with you.

David Richter:

Awesome. Well, let’s dive into it. Like you’ve done so many things in, in this space and you’re like, you’re a speaker too, which is awesome. You spoke like with Floyd Mayweather, Kevin Harrington, you know, Sharon lector, like a, a bunch of big names, which is very, very cool, but like, that’s not where we start. So, so let’s say, where did you start out? And as you were you know, on this journey now re like I said, raising that much money and like teaching other people. So how did it start and what was that journey for you?

Brad Blazar:

Yeah, so, you know, I always went on, on stage kind of share what I call my backstory. Yeah. And so I grew up like a lot of people just typical middle class. Certainly didn’t have a silver spoon in my mouth. Certainly wasn’t wealthy. My dad was an executive. My mom was a stay at home mom. But much like Robert Kiosaki writes about in his book, rich dad, poor dad. I had a rich uncle and you know, he was very affluent. My uncle Henry never had more than a sixth grade education. He was an orphan. And you know, as he was growing up, he was largely put to work inside the textile mills in New York city. And he was just approached one day as a young man by a gentleman that was a, a philanthropic you know, industrialist that said, Henry, I really have taken a liking to you.

Brad Blazar:

You’re a hard worker, you’re industrious. And because you work in the textile factories, you really have a good feel for fabric. Like when you feel cotton, you know, it’s cotton, or when you feel a good silk, you know, it’s silk, I’d like to partner with you. And so my uncle Henry and this gentleman launched a very successful woman’s fashion line called R and K fashions and R and K fashions was ultimately sold for millions of dollars. My uncle Henry became very affluent and started investing alongside the daltons and built hotels. One point on the Palm beach country club in Palm beach, Florida. And I’ll never remember, or I’ll never forget, rather I must have been about seven or eight. And I was there for Thanksgiving, with my family in Florida. And my uncle Henry took me by the hand and he was walking me around the dining hall in the Palm beach country club.

Brad Blazar:

And he said, you see that guy over there. That man makes all of the hangers that hang in your closet. And, and this guy over here, he makes all the little erasers that are at the end of your pencils in school bread. And he put his hand on my shoulder and I’ll never forget this. It was a revelation. And for those of your students or the people that listen, that don’t know what a revelation is, a revelation is like a major aha moment. I mean, it hits you at the core. It stays with you throughout life. And he made a comment to me that was like a revelation. He said, Brad, someday, by finding out what you’re really, really gifted at packaging it up and delivering it to the world, you can change people’s lives. And in the process, get wealthy doing it. Now at a seven year old age, I had no idea what that meant.

Brad Blazar:

It just like went one in ear and out the other. But I always knew being around my uncle, Henry was a lot more fun than hanging out with my parents. If I had to choose being rich over being middle class, I’d definitely wanted some of the things my uncle Henry had. So at a young age, I always knew I wanted to be successful. Well, I took the path that most people do because my parents largely ingrained in me. You’re gonna go to college, you’re gonna get a career. You know, you’re gonna get a job you’re gonna save. And so that’s largely what was ingrained in me over the course of growing up. And so I went to college, I went to school, studying architecture, wanted to be an architect. And while I was in my senior year, I just happened to open up the newspaper, respond to an ad and ended up going to work for a very small oil company in Texas.

Brad Blazar:

My job was to get on the phone, call out to people that did not know me. I did not know them. And over time, build that trust and build a relationship so that they would ultimately invest with us. And I got really, really good. I guess I was just a good salesman. I was confident, but you know, at a 21 year old age, working 12 to 15 hours a week between class after school, I was making close to a hundred thousand dollars. And this was back in the eighties when a hundred thousand dollars was really a hundred thousand dollars today. It’s not. So back then it was so I’m like, well, Jesus, if I’m only working 12 to 15 hours a week making this kind of money, like, what would it look like if I actually worked 40 hour work week? So I basically, without telling my parents just turned my back to school, quit going to classes, obviously got straight Fs, flunked out, but working for this other company, I increased my skillset became much more proficient.

Brad Blazar:

And then unbeknownst to me, it was actually discovered by one of my investors who was a petroleum geologist. We found out that this second company that I had gone to work for was essentially committing fraud. Oh wow. And so I went in and I resigned didn’t wanna be any part of it. They actually had my dad as an investor, you speak about stealing from people while, you know, when you steal from the families of people that work for you, that that’s even worse. Right? But we organized a class action lawsuit, which we ultimately won. But the investor base that I had cultivated over roughly two years never met me because this was at a time, you know, back in the mid, late eighties where we didn’t have internet, we didn’t have zoom. I was doing all of this over the phone, pitching people by telephone.

Brad Blazar:

So, you know, they must have thought I was in my thirties or forties. They didn’t know I was a 23 year old kid. So they’re like, Brad, well, you know, what are you gonna do now? And I looked back at that comment that my uncle Henry said that was like that revelation. It’s like, wow, this huge door just opened up. And I said, well, why not start an oil company now? I’ll be honest. I never drove the, well, I didn’t know anything about running a business. All I knew how to do was get on the phone and raise money. And so I printed up some letterhead. I printed up some stationary. I got a geologist, I got a landman. And before I knew it, I was a 23 year old kid telling everybody, Hey, I’m launching an oil business. And my parents are looking at me like, are you crazy?

Brad Blazar:

You don’t know anything about building a business, running a company. There were all the haters, the naysayers. And so over the course of a decade, I built a pretty successful oil company. We had 35 employees. We were drilling for oil and natural gas in Texas, Oklahoma, Louisiana raising, you know, hundreds of thousands, millions of dollars a month. And then in the late eighties, early nineties, two things happened. The tax reform act took away. Most of the incentives for investment capital and then second oil prices just plummeted. And so over the course of about a year and a half, I just slowly consolidated and collapsed the business until one day we no longer existed, never had to file for bankruptcy because we had no debt on the books. I, I like to say we did it the right way. And then there was a period in my life about a year where I was like completely disillusioned.

Brad Blazar:

I mean, I had no idea what I was gonna do. I had just come off making a lot of money, made some of the most difficult decisions I’ll probably ever have to make because people’s livelihoods. People’s families were relying on me. I needed to now tell ’em, you know, we’re closing the doors, we’re shutting down, et cetera. And so I was living off savings. And then I went to work basically in corporate America because I made the decision falsely that, Hey, I gotta go back to school. I gotta get my degree, which I did graduated with honors. And now that I had that nice little piece of paper, we call a diploma. I went out looking for employment and it was very, very disheartening because people wanted to hire me, but they wanted to pay me a salary or a compensation that was close to what I used to make, like in a good month.

Brad Blazar:

<Laugh>. And so I just laughed. And I said, you know, I’m obviously very overqualified. I’ve been hugely successful at a young age. And so again, another year went by and I’m just living office savings. And then one day I was watching TV in Steve Harvey. The, the famous comedian that has a TV show was there and he was talking to his audience and he said, everybody here in this audience, listen to this. I believe that all of you here have something special. It’s like when you were created by the maker, he puts something inside you that I call your primary gift. And here’s the sad part. Most of you will never figure out what it is. Most of you will never figure that out. But for those of you that do that, is your something special. And about three days later, it hit me like a ton of bricks.

Brad Blazar:

I never forget. I was drinking a glass of wine on my patio, smoking a cigar. And I was like, oh my God, my, my hard skill, like my something special as I know how to raise money better than anybody I’ve ever met. And so I went to work in an industry consulting and raising capital largely for other people, large real estate syndicators, you know, big firms on wall street that have public real estate investment trusts you know, big private equity firms. And over roughly 30 years, I’ve raised $2 billion B and I’ve raised it from any and all sources. You can fathom the high net worth investors, family offices, brokerage firms, pensions trust. I mean, I’ve raised 50 million from a fund in Israel. So you name it, I’ve done it. And what I realized is that was my gift. I created mastery at it, cuz I’ve been doing it for so long. And so we crafted today what we call Capital School, which is my global coaching and mentorship program, where I literally, I teach people that wanna learn how to attract, raise and close high net worth investor capital, exactly how to do it. And in addition to that, I do it because I’m a real estate entrepreneur started off of course, like most, you know, single family fix and flips rehab and then fast forward today, we’re now co-investing and we’re syndicating multifamily properties.

David Richter:

That’s awesome. I absolutely love that cuz that’s where most of the investors listening here are in that space, you know, either the multifamily like you’re doing or they’re doing their, you know, single family investing. So that’s awesome because <laugh>, if there’s any, any group of people that knows about raising money or that how important it is to raise money, I think it’s the real estate investing community. Yeah. So I would say, is that what you teach? Do you teach people how to raise from different sources as well too? Like from private lenders or bank funding or like different, you know, family offices, you know, those different types of, you know, high net worth or whatever that might be able to lend on a real estate deal or real estate, you know, acquisition.

Brad Blazar:

The answer to that is absolutely 100%. And I, I think that is why people have sought me out. I think that’s one of the reasons that we become so successful globally, you know, teaching people today now in seven countries around the world, Australia, New Zealand, Canada here in the us, of course the UK it’s because when somebody comes to me and says, look, you know, I wanna learn how to just raise a hundred thousand dollars so I can fix and flip this single family. Great. I can teach you how to do that. Somebody comes to me and says, look, I’ve been doing this for two years. I’ve raised about 5 million, but I wanna go to the next level mm-hmm, <affirmative> put together a fund, you know, know how to put together my offering memorandum, like what to put in my pitch deck and like, you know, raise 25 million.

Brad Blazar:

Great. I’ve done that too. So it doesn’t matter David, where people are on the spectrum of their capital raising journey, whether they’re beginning, whether they’ve done it and they wanna scale to the next level or whether they’ve tried and they’ve given up because they’ve floundered making rookie mistakes, we can correct those. I can take somebody and literally teach ’em anything and everything they wanna know from a to Z. Why? Because largely I’ve done it. And I think that’s what makes me different. There are other people out there that quote, advertise or promote, Hey, I can teach you how to raise money too. Well, some of these people have only raised 40, 50, 60 million. That’s a far cry from 2 billion.

David Richter:

Yeah.

Brad Blazar:

And most of them have never even walked in the door of a family office or raised money from a pension or a trust or a fund in a foreign country. So when you’re looking to be taught, how to raise money, hire somebody, that number one has taught hundreds of people, but more importantly can teach you so that when you get here on the ladder, he can then take you here. And when you get here on the ladder, he can then take you here and stay ingrained in that person’s coaching and mentorship. So that in three to five years, you’re no longer raising 25, 50,000 from small doctors and entrepreneurs. You’re now knocking on doors of family offices, launching a 25 million fund or doing something much bigger with your business because you’ve graduated to that next level with somebody that can take you there. And so I think that’s probably the biggest difference between what I do and my team does.

Brad Blazar:

And a lot of the other people that are out there quote in the real estate space, because really what they’re teaching you, how to do is how to pick up that 40, $80,000 check to fix and flip a house. That’s great. I’m not knocking it. But once you do that, you start to realize, you know, I’m flipping houses, I’m wholesaling, or I’m doing the bur method and it’s all transaction based and I’m grinding. Yeah. I’m making seven figures, but man, I’m tired. I’m beat. And I’m like, dude, why you knocking yourself out? Doing that? Get off the transactional treadmill, create a passive lifestyle by shifting over to multifamily or some other form of commercial real estate, like triple net and sit back on easy street where you’re getting mailbox money every month. Yeah. You see. And that’s the difference in the lifestyle that I live is I don’t have to work. Why cuz I got mailbox money. I have multiple streams of income. It’s taken me a while to get there. But I understood that principle after reading rich dad, poor dad and understanding how important other people’s money was to building and scaling my business.

David Richter:

Yeah. I was just gonna say, that’s the key piece there to going to that bigger side is being able to know how to walk in those doors of the family office, how to, you know, approach them and, and for the real estate investor, if you are doing single family, I mean, this is another way to be able to know to up level your game from not being in that rat race all the time, you know, spinning your wheels. So I love that. So I know you can’t give us the, in depth of like what you teach people, but can you give us just some tips on like maybe some high level tips, maybe one tip or something about how to raise private or how to raise money or just something that you might teach and you know, like to your students?

Brad Blazar:

Well, here’s one thing I’ll share. And I’ve learned this over the years just being exposed, like you said, to some of the biggest, you know, celebrity speakers, people like Floyd Mayweather that I spoke alongside just recently, Kevin Harrington of course, one of the original sharks on shark tank. Yeah. You know, Sharon Lechter you know, other big speakers Brad Lea, Bobby Castro, 10 X partner, Brandon Dawson is we as human beings, the way our brains are wired are not wired to thrive and be successful flat out. Our brain is programmed to do one thing and that’s keep us alive. And once you understand that fundamental principle that your brain’s job is to keep you alive. Whenever anything presents itself that contradicts, or that is a limiting belief or is that fear or that self-doubt of doing something outside your comfort zone, your brain says up back up step away.

Brad Blazar:

Because anything that challenges your brain by default will back away from that’s the reason most people don’t have six packs abs even though everybody would love to have. ’em Why, because it takes a shit load of hard work and the brain says too much effort, too much work back away. It’s trying to protect you. Once you understand that principle of success, you can start challenging it and realize that fear stands for False Evidence that Appears Real. Hmm. It’s the same thing about raising capital. The Mo the real reason most people aren’t doing it is they’re scared of approaching other people. They’re like, I don’t know how to do this. Or it’s the uncertainty of what somebody is gonna say. And I’m like, who gives a shit? What they say? If you talk to a hundred people, I guarantee 10 of them are gonna write you a check.

Brad Blazar:

But once you take action and commit and start having small amounts of success, you realize, holy cow, I can actually do this. And then you start doing it and you become more successful as you create those new habits. But the one thing that I will tell you about raising capital, we see this all the time. It’s a lot of the rookie mistakes is number one. People do not take the time to invest in the relationship with that perspective investor. Hmm. You see when you’re approaching an investor that does not know you and you start pitching a deal, they’re gonna be polite and they’re gonna nod your, their head, but you haven’t developed what I call the front end of that process. That’s investing in them by asking them questions, you know, getting to know them adding value before you ever even pitch. Yeah. It’s just simple questions like David, you know, when you invest, are you looking for growth?

Brad Blazar:

Are you looking for income or you looking for both? You know, how important are tax benefits to you? Are you investing this money with the expectation to do something with it? Like put your kids through school or maybe buy a second home? What other types of investments have you participated in? Because by asking people questions, you build that trust and let’s face it. People like to talk about themselves. So invest one, call, two calls, maybe even three calls before you ever pitch disarm, the person let ’em know right up front. I’m not calling to sell you anything or to ask you to invest. I just want to get to know you what you like to invest. And so if I ever see anything that I think might get you excited, I’ll know to reach out to you. And there’s one question that I always teach people to ask, and this is at the end of the second conversation after you’ve invested two calls or had two meetings, and what it does is it validates that that person trusts you enough to now be called back with a deal.

Brad Blazar:

And it goes something like this, David, you know, I’ve really enjoyed getting to know you the last couple times we’ve spoken, but like I’ve told you all along the way, I just don’t have an investment opportunity right now that I can talk to you about. And here’s the reason we always like to give our existing investors, the right of first refusal on any new opportunity that opens up. And as a result of our success, they tend to fill up pretty quickly. But with that being said, what I’d love to do is just add you to a list of people that I keep on my desk. So that at some point in the future, if an opening ever opens up, I can give you a call. Does that sound fair enough? And when you, you say yes, I’ve just put the nail in the coffin because you’ve just said, yeah, Brad, I trust you now enough, right?

Brad Blazar:

To call me back when, and if there’s an opportunity send to me. But the second thing I also done with that is that I’ve psychology in the process. There’s a very powerful closing technique, known in sales as the takeaway. So he doesn’t know if I’m gonna call him next week, next month, maybe three months. I, I literally have given him the expectation. You may never hear from me again. But when I call I’m now able to create that sense of urgency. I’m now able to basically create the thumb or fear of missing out on this great opportunity. And that’s one of the principles I teach in addition to many others. The second thing is really just lacking the confidence in going to an investor with a great idea. Investors do not invest in great ideas. You could have the best idea. Think you’re gonna make millions of dollars and come to some of the biggest investors on the planet like Kevin Harrington or mark Cuban. And they’re gonna say no, no, no. Because what investors look for is people with great ideas or great investments that can execute on those ideas.

David Richter:

So, Brad, I think we’re having some technical difficulties, but it’s okay. I you’ve provided a ton of value here on this podcast. How do people get a hold of you? Or how can they provide value back to you? You’ve got capital con coming up. You’ve got some events, some of that type of stuff. So how can people connect with you?

Brad Blazar:

I always tell people there’s, there’s three different ways. Number one, you can find my books on Amazon winning at the capital game. You just go to Amazon type my name right into the search bar. There all three books will come up. Number two you can go to our website, just WWW dot BradBlazar.com, just B L A Z like zebra AR. And it’ll give you lots of information on who I am, what we do. You can connect, you can learn about our coaching. You can learn at capital school, which is our premier coaching program, where we teach people how to do this. Or you can come to our event. Every year in April, we do a big event called capital con. You can buy a ticket, you can get proximity to the speakers. You can learn from some of the best of the best we bring in some big time. Real estate celebrities, people like Bobby Castro, people like Brad Lea from Dropping Bombs, Kevin Harrington, Sharon Lechter, we’ve had. So, you know, it’s really just about getting in the room and getting the knowledge in learning from other people that are at a place in life where you ultimately wanna be

David Richter:

Awesome. Now that’s great. So that’s how you could connect with Brad. And as you saw and heard on this podcast today, he is the real deal raised over 2 billion with a B dollars. And this is someone who can help you at all levels wherever you are right now, level your game on the, the raising the capital and can really help you. So, Brad, thank you so much for being on today and providing a bunch of value here. And thanks for joining us.

Brad Blazar:

You so much, David, it’s been my pleasure. Thank you for having me.

David Richter:

Thank you so much for listening to today’s show. If you found this episode valuable, could you do me a quick favor? Could you give us an honest rating within iTunes and be honest, you could say whether you liked it or not. And obviously with iTunes, the more reviews and ratings we have, the better it is for other people that are searching for a Profit First and a podcast. So we’d love to be ranked on there and that’s thanks to your help. So we would really appreciate that if you would like to go give us a rating. Also, if you’re looking to connect with us further, I would highly recommend checking out our Facebook group Profit First for real estate investors. And that’s literally what it’s called. So you can type in Profit First for real estate investors, and you’ll be able to find <laugh>, you’ll be able to find our Facebook group right there.

David Richter:

So come join active real estate investors who are supporting each other and growing their businesses and profits together. That’s what that group is all about. The link should be in the description below. And if you’re interested in working with us and implementing Profit First in your real estate business, we offer coaching and guidance. So if you wanna work with someone who’s actually Profit First certified and who works right now currently with real estate businesses, you can actually go start your application process by going to simpleCFO.com/apply, or just go right to simpleCFO.com. And there’s an apply button right on there. If you wanna actually start your Profit First journey with someone who can actually walk you through those step by step and help, you know, and grow your cash flow. Thanks again for joining us for another episode of the Profit First REI podcast. See you next episode.

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Title: “Profit First Strategies with Jay Conner: The Power of Private Money”

 

Episode: 242


There are 15 reasons to love about borrowing private money over traditional money. One of them is making your own rules for your private money.

 

In this episode of Profit First for REI podcast, Jay Conner, a nationally renowned real estate investor and the king of private money. He talks about how private money works.

 

Jay helps you get your money from private lenders and will share with you the mindset that will get you money in the door without you ever having to worry about it. 

 

Listen and enjoy the show! 

 

Key Takeaways:

 

[01:01] Introducing Jay Conner

[05:00] Introduction to private money

[08:30] The Great News Phone Call

[11:23] Why don’t you use your own money?

[13:18] Maintaining relationships with private lenders

[15:40] Private money vs traditional money

[22:05] Things that make them want to recommend you

[25:18] Advice for real estate investors

[29:01] Connect with Jay Conner

 

Quotes:

 

[07:34] “If you are talking about private money and raising private money with an individual and you got a deal for them to fund, you already sounded desperate.”

 

[12:07] “If you want to scale your business, private money is the way to go.” 

 

[16:05] “In this world of private money, we make the rules. We set the interest rate, we sent the length and all of that.”



Connect with Jay:

 

Website: https://www.jayconner.com/book-details/ 

 

Tired of living deal to deal? 

If you are a real estate investor or business owner who is tired of living deal to deal and want to double your profits, head over here to book your no-obligation discovery call with me. Either myself or someone from my team will hop on a short call with you to get clear on your business goals, remove any obstacles holding you back, and map out a game plan to help you finally start keeping more of the money you work so hard to make. – David

 


Transcript:

Speaker 1 (00:00):

I got 15 reasons I love private money over traditional money. I won’t share all 15, but the biggest one is it puts you in the driver’s seat. The traditional way to borrow money is you go to the bank and get on your hands and knees and you’re begging and chasing. Well, they are making the rules right? Like the lender is making the rules. But in this world of private money, we make the rules, we set the interest rate, we set the length of the note and all that.

Speaker 2 (00:34):

If you’re a real estate investor who’s sick and tired of living deal to deal, then welcome home. Hear from everyday real estate investors just like you, and discover how they’ve completely transformed their business by taking a profit First approach. This is the profit first for REI podcast, where we believe revenue is vanity. Profit is sanity. It’s time to start making profit a habit in your business. So here’s your host, David Richter.

Speaker 3 (01:01):

We have Jay Connor back on the podcast. I love Jay Connor. He helps you get your money, the money from private lenders and that whole framework and process, but he does it from a passion and a place of heart. And servant Teachership. I feel like he goes out there and is a servant teacher of how private money works. Listen to this episode. He gives the magic question he tells about desperation and private lending, and I thought his perspective was so good, and then ultimately the mindset that will get you money in the door without you ever having to worry about it. So listen to this episode. Can’t wait for you to get value from it. Thank you for being a listener of the Profit First. RII podcast. Have a great episode. Hey, here’s the profit first RI podcast. Really excited to have Jay Connor back because he’s the came of private money. And this is where I love to go into this topic because I don’t care what kind of business you’re in, you probably need help with this, but especially if you’re in the real estate world, this comes up all the time at every event I’m at with every conversation I have. So we’re having the cane here talk about private money today. So Jay, thanks for being on the show.

Speaker 1 (02:07):

Hey David, thank you so much for having me come on here to talk about my most favorite topic. Of course, that being private money. And why is that? Because private money’s had a bigger impact on our real estate investing business than any other strategy that we’ve implemented in our business.

Speaker 3 (02:24):

Why did you go down that road though? I mean, you teach this all the time. You’re helping a ton of people, like anyone I’ve ever talked to that works with you is like he taught me how to do and I got money and it actually works. So I mean, how did you even go down that road where it made a difference on you and then you wanted to get it to others?

Speaker 1 (02:43):

Well, I actually backed into it. I didn’t do it on purpose. So here’s what happened. So my wife, Carol, joy and I, we’ve been investing in real estate, single family houses, other real estate full time here in eastern North Carolina since 2003. And here’s what happened. From 2003 until 2009, David, all I knew to do in my real estate investing business was rely on the local banks to fund my deals. I mean, all I knew to do was go to the bank, get on my hands and knees, put my hand underneath my chin, raise my skirt up so they could look at all my personal financial statements and stuff and actually beg to get my deals funded. That’s all I knew to do. And so I had a big wake up call in January of 2009 after being in this business here in Eastern North Carolina. I called up my banker.

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I told him about these two deals I had under contract in Newport, these two single family houses. And David, I learned like that over the telephone that my line of credit had been shut down with no notice. My banker, his name was Steve, and the bank was bb and t at the time. I said, Steve, what in the world are you telling me? My line of credit is shut down. I got two deals under contract. You gave me no notice. Why is the bank closing my line of credit? He said, Jay, don’t. There’s a global financial crisis going on right now. I said, no, but now you just gave me a global financial crisis. Financial crisis, yeah, I ain’t got no way to fund my deals. And I got ’em under contract. So I hung up the phone and here’s what happened, David. I sat here and I asked myself a very important question.

(04:27):

And so I’m going to share this question with your audience right now. This question I’m going to share with you will help you solve any problem you’ve got. I don’t care if it’s business, financial, career, health, relationships. I don’t care what your problem is. By the way, David, these people going around and saying, any problem, you got some opportunity I want to throw up. I didn’t have no opportunity. I had a problem of not funding my deal. So here’s the question I asked myself. The question I asked myself was, Jay, who do you know that can help you with your problem? And when I asked myself that question, I immediately thought of my good friend Jeff, who lived in Greensboro, North Carolina at the time, and he was investing in real estate. And so I called him up and I told him what happened. And he said, well, Jay, welcome to the club.

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I said, what club? He said, the club of the bank shutting you down and losing amount of credit. They shut me down last week. I said, well, how are you funding your deals, Jeff? He says, well, have you ever heard of private money? And I hadn’t. So Jeff told me about private money. He told me about self-directed IRAs and how people can use their retirement accounts and funds that they currently have and move them over to a self-directed IRA company and then loan that money out to us real estate investors, either tax deferred or tax free depending on the type of account they’ve got. Well, that just opened up my whole world. I’d never heard of that. And so what did I do? How did raise $2,150,000 in less than 90 days after being cut off from the bank? Well, here’s what I did, and here’s the secret sauce I put on my teacher hat.

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So I put on my teacher cap, which is my private money teacher cap, and I just started teaching people in my own network what private money is, how they can earn high rates of returns safely and securely. And what’s interesting, Carol, joy and I, we got 47 private lenders right now. Not one of them had ever heard of private money and private lending. Not one of them had ever heard of self-directed IRA companies and what a third party custodian is. That’s important by the way, to establish a relationship with a self-directed IRA company because over half of my private lenders are using their retirement funds. And if I didn’t have that relationship to introduce them to move their retirement funds over, I’d be missing out on over half of my private money. So how did I go about raising all this money when I was cut off from the banks?

(07:02):

I led with a servant’s heart. I led with education. And here’s a really, really important point. I separated the activity. I separated the conversations of telling people what private money is and how they can earn high rates of return safely and securely and having a deal for them to fund. You see, desperation has got a smell to it. And when you talk about is that not true, David? Yeah, very true. So if you’re talking about private money and raising private money with an individual and you got a deal for them to fund, you’re already sounding desperate and you’re not even trying to sound desperate. So we don’t talk about deals and when we’re first exposing somebody to how they can earn high rates of return, we talk about private money. So how do we separate those conversations? Well, when someone has told me that they’ve got, let’s say they’ve got $150,000 they want to invest and get high rates of return conservatively, I’ll say, great, I’ll put your money to work for you just as soon as possible.

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I don’t talk about a deal upfront. If they’ve got retirement funds that they want to get higher rates of return on, I’ll introduce ’em to the self-directed IRA company that I recommend. They’ll get their funds moved over. And so here’s what happens and here’s the magic sauce, David, I give ’em and I call ’em up with what I call the great news phone call. What in the world is the great news phone call? Well, the great news phone call is not a pitch. I’ve never pitched a deal in my life ever since I started raising private money in 2009. I pick up my handset with my cord attached to it here in North Carolina and I call some of your, don’t even know what that is. And let’s say, David, let’s say you’re one of my private lenders. So I’ll put my phone right up here and you’ll answer the phone and we’ll have a little chitchat and I’ll say, Dave, I got great news for you.

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I can now put your money to work. I got a house in Newport with an after repaired value of $200,000. The funding requires 150. Closing is next Tuesday. You’ll need to have your funds wired to my real estate attorney next Monday. I’m going to have my real estate attorney email you the wiring instructions end of conversation. Notice I didn’t ask If you want to fund the deal, of course you want to fund the deal. You’ve been waiting for the phone call. I’ve told you the program. I’ve taught you the program, you know what kind of rate you get, what the maximum loan to value is, the program that I’ve taught you. And so now you’re waiting for the good news phone call, which I just gave you. And in addition to that, if you as my private lender, if you’ve moved your retirement funds over to a self-directed IRA company, you ain’t earning any money until I put your money to work.

(10:04):

You moved it at my recommendation. Now I’m ethically bound to put your money to work. You ain’t earning any money until you actually put her to work. So again, we separate conversations, we leave with a servant’s heart, we educate, and by the way, David, these people going around saying don’t just get the deal under contract. The money is show up. I want to throw up where is the money going to show up? Is it just going to rain out of clouds or something? No, get the money lined up and you can get it lined up fast. Just like me. There’s always going to be deals.

Speaker 3 (10:38):

Yeah. Oh man, that’s really good stuff. I love how you went down that road and it helped you personally. Now you’re just teaching a lot of people. I love that magic question. Who do you know that can help me with my problem? It’s that who, it’s not always the how. It’s the who did I know, and in that point it really helped you. I also run into a lot of times, I don’t know if you see this, where there’s someone who’s like, I could save a couple interest points if I just use my own money versus a private lender’s funds. What are your thoughts on that of always taking down your own deals versus going out there and putting the work into getting a private lender?

Speaker 1 (11:17):

Sure, I get that question all the time. They say, Jay, you making all that money? Why don’t you use your own money to invest in real estate? Why are you still borrowing private money? Well, here’s the answer. If you’re just going to do one deal, that’s a great use of your money. That’s a fantastic use of your money. But do you want to scale your business? I mean, right now we’ve got seven different projects going on, single family houses simultaneously. Well, I don’t want my money buried in seven houses or projects simultaneously, which here in our local market can easily be over 3 million with the prices of our homes. So if you want to scale and really, I mean most people have got a bottom of the bucket in their checkbook. So if you want to scale your business, then private money is the way to go. Another answer to that question is, do I want to pay myself 8% or do I want to use my money for something else,

Speaker 3 (12:22):

Right? Yep.

Speaker 1 (12:24):

So that’s a couple of answers to why I use private lending and why I’m still using 47 private lenders,

Speaker 3 (12:33):

Which is great. I love what you said. If you want to scale, it can run out of cash real quick. If you just keep using your own money where a lot of people have to choose between, okay, paying some percentage points or sleeping at night, and it’s like, I think I like your option a whole lot better, especially if you’re looking to grow. But I like how you said that one deal. That’s okay, but if you are looking to be a real estate investor, this is something you’re going to have to go down that road. Now, last time I asked you some questions about the private lending process. I don’t think I asked this one though, is how do you maintain a relationship with that many private lenders? You’ve got 47 people in your network that you call up with the good news call. So is it like how do you maintain a relationship with all those people?

Speaker 1 (13:22):

I mail ’em checks.

Speaker 3 (13:25):

I love that. That’s a great answer. Oh man. No better way to keep a relationship there.

Speaker 1 (13:33):

I mean, they love getting money in the mail, right? Yeah. They love mailbox money, so I mail ’em checks.

Speaker 3 (13:41):

So you mail ’em checks. So you’ve built a good enough business where you can keep 47 lenders busy and their money active.

Speaker 1 (13:50):

Well, to be totally transparent, I mean, it is a juggling act to tell you the truth. I mean, there’s more money than there is deals.

Speaker 3 (14:00):

Yep.

Speaker 1 (14:01):

There’s more money than there is deals. And so we got 47 private lenders. Some of them have got $30,000 with us, some of ’em have got a million dollars with us. I can’t buy a house for 30,000, but I can use 30,000 for rehab money. You can use private money, borrow private money in a junior position, you’ve got to disclose that. But I can put private money in a junior lien. But what comes into play there is what we call total loan to value. So I’m not going to be borrowing more than 75% of the after repaired value. I didn’t say the purchase price 75% of the after repaired value. But let’s say back to that example that we just talked about, David, where if I’ve got a after repaired value on a home of 200,000 for easy figuring, I can borrow up to 150,000. That’s 75% of the after repaired value. But if I buy it for a hundred thousand, which I do all the time, 50% of the after repaired value, I can have a private lender in first position at a hundred grand. I could have another private lender in second position at 50 grand. So add a hundred to the 50, now one 50 divided by 200,000 after repaired value, I got a total loan to value of still 75%.

Speaker 3 (15:27):

Yeah, I love that. And it seems like private money gives you flexibility and

Speaker 1 (15:32):

Options. Does that make sense?

Speaker 3 (15:34):

Yeah, that makes sense. A hundred percent.

Speaker 1 (15:37):

Oh, absolutely. Flexibility is where it’s all at. I got 15 reasons. I love private money over traditional money. I won’t share all 15, but the biggest one is it puts you in the driver’s seat. The traditional way to borrow money is you go to the bank and get on your hands and knees and you’re begging and chasing, well, they are making the rules, right? The lender is making the rules. But in this world of private money, we make the rules, we set the interest rate, we set the length of the node and all that.

Speaker 3 (16:14):

I love that. Flexibility is the ultimate play in real estate. You want to have flexibility and you want to be able to have that. So I love what you teach. Who is the person that you’re trying to teach out there? Is it the person that’s done one deal a thousand deals? Who are you trying to help the most with your business?

Speaker 1 (16:33):

Yeah, that’s interesting. At my live events, which is called the private money conference, and my live events, we have about 60% or so have already done deals. They’ve already done deals. They want to scale their business. They are real estate investors wanting to scale their business, and about 40% are looking to get their very first deal. So I’m helping everybody. I mean Stu and Harriet Baldwin from New York State, they enrolled and joined my mastermind membership community and they already had a portfolio of a hundred houses. They’d already raised over $2 million in private money, but they wanted to see how I went about it. Well, just one webinar that I recorded with them brought in 1.2 million in additional private private money. So I’ve worked with real estate investors that are brand new and those that are also seasoned to help them get more private money ready to go for their business.

Speaker 3 (17:33):

I love that. It sounds like a lot of people out there need private money, and even if you’re just getting started, if you don’t have the funds to do that first deal, like you mentioned, you do that first deal, that one deal at a time, it might be okay, but this sounds like a great spot where if you’re getting into it or if you’ve got lots of stuff going on, this could be another way to make sure your company can keep running without what you ran into with the banks back in 2007, eight or oh nine. Would you say that’s true as well?

Speaker 1 (18:04):

Absolutely. Absolutely. I mean, I’ve met very, very few people. In fact, I can’t even think of one. I haven’t met any real estate investor that says, I got enough money.

Speaker 3 (18:20):

Yeah, me either.

Speaker 1 (18:22):

I can’t use any more private money. However, David, you are looking at one right now. I got about almost $2 million right now, what I call sitting on the shelf waiting to be deployed. And I tell you what, I’ve had new private lenders come into my world that want to invest and just to prove to them that I can perform. I’ll take the new private lender’s money and pay off a current private lender, refinance the deal so I can get their money to work for ’em, right?

Speaker 3 (18:53):

Ah, yep, that makes sense. I like that. As you grow and scale, you might run into that issue and you make one lender a little bit happy. I mean, at least they’re getting paid off, but then they probably come back to you and say, I want you to put my money to work again. Do you have that come up a lot?

Speaker 1 (19:12):

Quite frankly, when I pay ’em off, they’re not happy.

Speaker 3 (19:17):

That’s why I said just a little happy, maybe a little bit.

Speaker 1 (19:20):

But when I pay ’em off, they’re not making any money on that money. In fact, with a new private lender, I’ll get ready to pay ’em off cashing out on a deal and I’ll call ’em up and say, Hey, just want you to know that you’re going to have a check coming in the mail from a real estate attorney’s trust account. We’re paying off this house. And they’ll say, Jay, can’t you just keep the money? And I’ll go, no, I can’t keep the money unless I’ve got your money secured by a property because we do not borrow unsecured funds. Now, here’s maybe a little advanced strategy for some folks, but I do substitutions of collateral or loan modifications all the time. If it’s a small amount of money that a private lender’s invested 30, 40, $50,000, and we use it for rehabbing a property. So when I’ve got another property I’m getting ready to start on, I’ll substitute the collateral and keep that 30 or $50,000 note in play. So they keep earning money on that money, but we will substitute the collateral just to a different project that we’re moving to.

Speaker 3 (20:25):

That’s awesome. So then sounds like you have a good problem. It’s like, I want that. Well, I think a lot of real estate investors would rather the problem, I have too much money versus I’ve got these deals and I can’t fund them. So I really like how you teach people that and where it could snowball into this, where it’s like, I’ve got 47 private lenders, I’ve got to go out there and get the deals for ’em. Absolutely. And I really like that. And

Speaker 1 (20:50):

For goodness sakes, you don’t start out with 47 private lenders. I started out with one, right? I started out with one and then that quickly became two and three and four and five because private lenders tell other people what’s going on. So I haven’t actively attracted private money for years because our current private lenders just keep sending us people. In fact, day before yesterday, day before yesterday, I got a phone call from the mother of a good friend of mine, his name’s Craig, lives in Newburg, North Carolina. Craig had told his mother about this investment thing that I got going on and she had never heard of it, which is really funny. I’ve been doing it now private money since 2009. So she calls me up and she says, Hey, my son’s been telling me about this investment thing you got going on. Tell me about it. So word of mouth gets around very, very quickly when you start doing business with private lenders the way I do.

Speaker 3 (21:53):

Yeah, I like that a lot. So in order to get people to talk like that, what are the biggest things that you do for your current private lenders that makes them want to recommend you?

Speaker 1 (22:07):

Well pay ’em on time.

Speaker 3 (22:08):

There you go. That’s a big one. Sounds like that would be a really great place to start.

Speaker 1 (22:12):

Pay ’em on time. But I also have three times a year I put on a party for our private lenders at the Dunes Club. So we have three times a year a VIP reception over at the Dunes Club on the beach, and it’s just an evening of private lenders getting together and we have a good old time and I feed them and give them all the soft shell crabs they want, and I tell ’em to bring their friends with them.

Speaker 3 (22:42):

Yeah, that’s awesome. So number one though, that anyone can do at any stage is pay people on time. So actually pay, would you say, what about communication? I hear that come up sometimes too. How do you do a good job on the communication with your private lenders as well?

Speaker 1 (23:03):

Well, it must be good enough. They never go away,

Speaker 3 (23:06):

Right? Yeah, that’s the big things I hear.

Speaker 1 (23:10):

Here’s one thing I have not delegated as far as communication. I personally, I mean my relationships with my private lenders are very, very important. So I personally pick up the phone, pick up the phone, and call my private lenders when I have got a deal for them to fund. I do not delegate that out. I could

(23:37):

Delegate that out, but I don’t, when I got a deal for them to fund, I’m the person on the phone keeping that relationship When I’m getting ready to pay them off. I don’t have a check just show up in the mail. Of course they got to sign a payoff instruction letter if a different closing agent is closing it for a buyer. But before any of that happens, I personally call ’em up and I tell ’em that we’ve got that property sold. We’re getting ready to pay you off. Or I’ll call ’em up and I’ll say, Hey, we’re getting ready to pay this property off, but I will keep your note open so you can keep earning money. I’m just going to substitute the collateral. We got some documents we’re going to email to you for you to sign and send back the communication. I’m personally involved in putting their money to work and letting them know when we’re cashing out and where they are on the deal.

Speaker 3 (24:31):

That’s awesome. Then since it’s the profit first I podcast here, I love this concept of the private money because you need your cash in your accounts. So to be able to run your business, do those things, and then setting up a separate account just for your private money lenders, so it makes it easier to do what Jay just told you to pay them back, to pay them back on time to be in good communication with them. So now this has been really good. Do you have any other advice before I ask you? How could they work with you? How can they get in touch with, because I know this is something that is needed desperately, that I send people your way all the time. I know I trust you to help people, but any other last minute advice here that you would give to the real estate investors listening to the podcast?

Speaker 1 (25:18):

Sure. I appreciate you asking that question. It’s going to be very hard to own a lot of real estate

(25:26):

Until you own the real estate between your ears. So what do I mean by that? People ask me, how do I start? How do I start raising money? I can tell you how you start raising private money. You get your heart right, you get your mindset right. So what do I mean by that? Well, what do you do? You lead with a servant’s heart, you lead with education, you put your private lender money hat on, you private lender, teacher hat on, and you leave with education, don’t pitch deals, and you really, really are concerned about the other person and realize, part of this mindset is realize you’ve got an opportunity to change people’s lives, right?

Speaker 3 (26:11):

That’s so good.

Speaker 1 (26:13):

We’ve got countless people that are particularly in their retirement years, that have thanked me and Carol Joy for making a difference in their retirement years to where they can, I mean, they don’t want to touch their principal. They want to live off of their principal investment. So they’ve been able to travel, go see grandkids, do all this stuff that they couldn’t do otherwise until they got involved in our program. So just know that you’ve got a way to really make an impact on other people’s lives. And lemme tell you another part of mindset. It ain’t about reaping. It’s not about reaping. It’s all about sowing. It’s all about sowing. I can’t be reaping all that private money and deals until I have sown and given and led with value first. So how you sow is how you’re going to reap.

Speaker 3 (27:08):

Yeah. Oh man, this is so good. I’m glad I asked that question because I hear the passion in your voice and I hear that you really care about the people you work with, the people that have private money lenders out there, you care about that relationship. I love what you said. Get your heart right, get your head right. I also think, like you said too, that if they don’t have that desperation has a smell. So if you’re out there, you’re desperate and you’re just going out there, then you won’t have people like you have that want to keep coming back, that want to continuously invest in you. So that was, I think, the best advice that you could give right there. Get it between your ears and get your heart right. I absolutely love that. And just to recap too, I love your magic question.

(27:55):

Who do you know that can help me with my problem? Then one day you’re going to wake up and you’re going to be like Jay, and you’re going to be helping other people with their problem. I’ve got money. I want to put it somewhere, and you’re the able to get them to where they can be. Desperation has a smell. I love that. And then honestly, I love that pivot. You are like, it’s not about the reaping, it’s not about the interest that I’m making or the profit I’m making for the deal. It’s more about sowing those seeds and ultimately you’re changing lives. That’s why you get private money, and it’s like that interest that you’re paying them is twofold. It’s like you get to sleep at night, you’re not using all your money and you’re getting to help someone else get a return that they wouldn’t be able to get anywhere else or in someone that they trust as well too, and that’s a little bit more tangible than the stock markets or all this other Bitcoin, some of that stuff that’s floating around out there. So this has been awesome. So how do people then, Jay, take that next step with you? Do you have a book? You talked about an event. What can people do?

Speaker 1 (29:01):

Absolutely. Well for your audience, David, I’ve got two gifts. First of all, I finished writing my book Where to Get the Money. Now, this is not a ebook. This is a book book that we actually send in the mail Autographic where to get the money. Now the subtitle is How and Where to Get Money for Your Real Estate Deals Without Relying on Hard Money Lenders or Traditional Lenders. It’ll walk you through step by step how to get all the private money you would want. Very, very easy to read. It’s $20 on Amazon, but you can get it for free. Being David’s audience, just cover shipping. You can go to www dot j Connor, J-A-Y-C-O-N-N-E r.com/book. So I’m an er, not an or. So that’s j Connor, J-A-Y-C-O-N-N-E r.com/book, and we’ll three day priority mail it out to you. Now, in addition to that, I’ve got an upcoming $3,000 per ticket live event right around the corner. But for your audience, Dave, I’m going to let everybody come for free with a measly $97 registration fee. This private money event. You can check it out at www.theprivatemoneyconference.com. The private money conference.com. That’s coming up right around the corner in June. Get on over there. Registrations are open, and I’d love to meet you in person at the private money conference.com.

Speaker 3 (30:31):

Awesome. I’m excited about that too. I love what you’re doing and you’re solving a big need that we hear all the time. Just like all people always needing to sharpen their acts when it comes to private money, you graciously have also invited me there to speak about Profit First. So I’m excited to get to tell people about that so they can get more private money and be more confident and not be desperate when they go and ask for people. So I’m really excited about that as well. So make sure we’re going to put those links there, but make sure either get his book or go to that event. I cannot endorse Jay Moore because I know how many people he helps, but then he also has the heart. You heard it right here. That’s how he wants to help you too. It’s very much a heart and a mission and a passion for him.

(31:13):

So Jay, thank you for coming on, for sharing your wisdom, your knowledge today. If you are listening to this episode and you feel stuck like, what the heck is going on? Where is my money? I don’t know what to do. I’m a little bit nervous to go out there and get private money. I can’t keep my own house in order. That’s where you could go to simple cfo.com where we can help you walk you through that process. We’ll link you up to Jay too. If you need private money or need to learn about private money, this is who we recommend. I recommend Jay to many people, so make sure that if you need that help you go to simple cfo.com. But Jay, again, thank you for being on the show and sharing your wisdom here today.

Speaker 1 (31:51):

David, thank you so much for having me. God bless you.

Speaker 2 (31:54):

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